“Wherever you are, be there totally. If you find your here and now intolerable and it makes you unhappy, you have three options: remove yourself from the situation, change it, or accept it totally” -Tolle
Acceptance is hard.
The mind thinks acceptance is defeat, resignation, stoic tolerance. The mind thinks acceptance is locking in a reality it doesn’t like. The mind thinks acceptance is giving up hope.
It’s actually just the opposite. Change happens only after complete acceptance.
We believe that time heals. Time does not heal. Acceptance heals, but acceptance is a delicate thing. It’s not a resignation. It is not a forced accptance that says I don’t like accepting but I will because that’s what I should do. It is a complete acceptance of what is, without grasping or running away from the present. And then, miraculously, life knows what to do.
Look at the moment-to-moment grasping that the mind does. Look at it with Awareness. Be completely still, and fall back into the Now, and you will see that even in this stillness, there is the jumpiness of grasping. We are in a constant process of becoming. Can we release this movement, this becoming, this ‘shoulding’ and just be, right here, right now?
This is Acceptance.
Acceptance is internalizing the rightness of here and now. Acceptance is a loving allowing.
Stop all delays, all seeking and all striving. Put down your concepts, ideas and beliefs. For one instant be still and directly encounter the silent unknown core of your being. In that instant Freedom will embrace you and reveal the Awakening that you are. -Adyashanti
You read something like this, and you will nod your head and say, yes, this makes sense. I will accept what is. The next time something “bad” happens, guess what? It will be hard for you to accept, perhaps even harder than before because your attention is on trying to accept. But the time after that, it will be a little easier. And again, it will be easier. It keeps getting progressively easier.
If you have a hard time with acceptance, or don’t quite understand it, don’t worry about it. It develops naturally with deepening Awareness and Release.
What is your experience? Can you think of something that was difficult to accept? What is it that allowed you to accept it?