Tag Archives: Honesty

The fundamental question

The most fundamental question of life is "Is there joy and peace in my life?" It's the essential question, and yet most of us run away from it. We're pretty good at not facing up to ourselves. I suppose most of us believe that life has to be the way it is. We buy into the popular definitions of success and we believe when we're successful we're happy--when we have money, when we have approval, when someone is bringing us flowers--we're happy then, and when there is grief, we say, well, this is Read more [...]

One damn thing after another

As you observe thoughts, without the effort to judge or analyze or change, you might notice that thoughts slow down. The gaps in-between expand. You notice also that many of our thoughts are of self-judgment. This may not be obvious at first--well the obviously self-judgmental thoughts are clearly self-judgmental, but you begin to notice that almost all of your thoughts are in some way about judgment and about self. This self of course does not exist--that is, it does not point to anything Read more [...]

What works and what doesn’t work

What works What I talk about here I talk about from direct experience. There is nothing here which is based on beliefs or concepts. In the last four or five years of exploring, these are things I've found: -Most human beings operate from fear and desire. This is what the Buddha called dukkha, or discontent, or if you want to be cute about it, call it dis-ease. We are not easy with life. -Most of us have accepted this state of discontent and unease as our natural state. -All of our troubles Read more [...]

Recognizing Dishonesty

The you that you think of as you (and that thinks of you as you, and so on) is not you, it’s just the character that the underlying truth of you is dreaming into brief existence. Enlightenment isn’t in the character, it’s in the underlying truth. Now, there’s nothing wrong with being a dream character, of course, unless it’s your goal to wake up, in which case the dream character must be ruthlessly annihilated. If your desire is to experience transcendental bliss or supreme love or altered Read more [...]

A Chinese Finger Trap

Lisa of Mommy Mystic does a fabulous interview with Karen Miller. Karen suggests that the ego’s deft ability to fool ourselves is a good reason to seek out a teacher.  A good teacher can keep us honest. It’s an excellent point. But many of us do not resonate with spiritual traditions or gurus. There is a great deal of wisdom in the traditions of Advaita, Yoga, Zen, Dogzchen, Tao, Buddhism, Gnostics, Kaballah, Sufism and others, but I don’t lean towards ashrams and gurus and traditions, Read more [...]


2010 will continue the evolution you have been feeling for some time now. You may be tired from the climb of recent years. The seeking, and frustration, and the times when you think you’ve risen above some spiritual threshold only to be humbled back down, and the times of three steps forward and two back—all of it is tiring. Perhaps you dabbled in spirituality. But if you hang around these circles you’ve run into a “spiritualized” ego. I know one right now. A “spiritualized” ego Read more [...]

Do you feel lighter, more compassionate, more joyful, more natural, more playful?

One the most important things Eckhart Tolle has said is rarely mentioned. He said the test of being is a very simple question: Do I feel lighter and more joyful? Ask yourself: Do I feel lighter, more natural, more joyful, more compassionate, more connected, more open, more playful? Am I coming out of the world of fear and sadness? Does life unfold more effortlessly and rightfully? Does life flow? It’s taken me some practice to answer the question truthfully. As awareness expands, and Read more [...]

A Gentle Honesty

Awakening humbles me. A strange thing about awakening is frequently we feel we are very conscious, but then life throws something at us and we react in the same conditioned way we always did. It’s a humbling experience, and that’s the point of it. A year ago I had severe and debilitating anxiety. It was bad enough to have anxiety at all, and this particular bout was especially severe, but on top of that I was upset that I could have anxiety at all. I had thought. with awakening I had overcome Read more [...]