Tag Archives: Emotion

How to mend a broken heart

“Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.” I used this quotation from cool-dude Dalai Lama about two years ago in an essay about unrequited love. It’s in one my books I think.  The quotation stuck with me because when I first saw it, I was in pain, from a relationship, not getting what I had wanted. Relationships—as in all human interactions—are the nexus where heaven and earth meet. It is the playground of the ego. Human interactions, particularly Read more [...]

Our Days of Discontent

Life is simple. Everything happens for you, not to you. Everything happens at exactly the right moment, neither too soon nor too late. You don't have to like it... it's just easier if you do… –Byron Katie Sooner or later, we all face the essential question: what is life about? On the exterior, my life had gone rather smoothly. My family is Indian but I grew up in Uganda, East Africa, which is almost an idyllic place to grow up, if you have money, and we did. Life was very good and easy Read more [...]

Why we take a peculiar pleasure in suffering and how to stop

"Observe the peculiar pleasure you derive from being unhappy. Observe the compulsion to talk or think about it." -Eckhart Tolle Have you noticed? We want to be free of pain, but there is a part of us that which takes a peculiar pleasure from reveling in suffering. I had two decades of depression and anxiety before I came to awakening. Some of the episodes were so debilitating that all I could do was atrophy behind a black cloud and watch my life crumble—watching helplessly, as once again, Read more [...]

Release and Heal – 5th Awakening is Simple book excerpt

Release and Heal And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. -Aniis Nin This technique is simple, effective, natural and beautiful. We knew it as children but have forgotten how to use it. It works right away with emotions, but once you have some practice with it, you can use it just as well for thoughts and beliefs, and for releasing emotional baggage around desires. It helps to understand the structure of emotions. If we were Read more [...]

What Depression Feels Like

Depression is the opposite of Love. If Awake is the most expansive being, depression is the most contracted. Depression is deep futility. Every emotion is numb. You can’t feel pleasure or pain. You can’t remember what emotions felt like. You can’t imagine how it is possible to feel anything but the way you are feeling.  If you remember what normal felt like, you could perhaps reach for it. But you don’t. Your state knows no other state, cannot even guess that there are other ways to feel. There Read more [...]

Flow…In a Few Words

It's all about accessing our natural ability to be in flow. When we are in flow, living improves without effort on our part. Flow is happy, non-resitant living in the Now. It is so very natural that when we "arrive" it's hard to remember how or why we ever lived a life of struggle. Where is happiness to be found? We look for joy outside, in power, relationships, accumulation and many other things that make up living, when joy is already shining inside us. Consciousness, uncluttered with mind-stuff, Read more [...]

Flow…A Few More Words

Is flow the same as awakening? Yes. We can think of ourselves as varying degrees of consciousnesses and unconsciousness, dreaming and awakening, illusion and awareness, and resistance and flow. What are the obstacles to waking up to flow? The first obstacle is the deep identification to thought. We are so addicted to thinking that it is hard to see another possibility. Once we have this insight, another obstacle is that mind will look at awakening as it does everything else—something to Read more [...]