Tag Archives: Acceptance

Dark Night of the Soul

Spiritual awakening doesn’t happen because you master some spiritual technique. There are lots of skillful meditators who are not awake. Awakening happens when you stop bullshitting yourself into continual nonawakening. It’s very easy to use disciplines to avoid reality rather than to encounter it. A true spirituality will have you continually facing your illusions and all the ways you avoid reality. Spiritual practice may be an important means of confronting yourself, or it may be a means of Read more [...]

How to mend a broken heart

“Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.” I used this quotation from cool-dude Dalai Lama about two years ago in an essay about unrequited love. It’s in one my books I think.  The quotation stuck with me because when I first saw it, I was in pain, from a relationship, not getting what I had wanted. Relationships—as in all human interactions—are the nexus where heaven and earth meet. It is the playground of the ego. Human interactions, particularly Read more [...]

Acceptance is not something we do; it is something we stop doing

We sometimes have trouble understanding concepts like awareness, release, acceptance, forgiveness, gratitude, compassion, non-attachment, surrender and so on. I suppose these can be called ‘spiritual’ concepts but ‘spirituality’ is word that gets caught in my throat. It really doesn’t want to come out cleanly. It’s like God—it’s so filled up with assumptions that it’s a dead end. The trouble is of course that we try to understand these as concepts. If we learn to let go, Read more [...]

The Angst of Positive Thinking

Optimism is so much easier than pessimism--it’s more fun, more effective, more validating, more energizing, and closer to Awareness. When we’re jazzed up, people love us and want to be around us. We do more, and we do more with more energy and more enthusiasm and more flow. We want to be positive but many of us live in a very negative internal world, and often we don’t even know it, until it brims over. Negativity demands attention—it builds up, like tornado and sucks us in. It is Read more [...]

Finding Passsion and Purpose: The Tipping point in the fulcrum of change

What’s the purpose of your life? When our basic needs are met, this is the question that comes up. We want to find purpose or passion. Why? Nadia of HappyLotus recently wrote, with usual excellence, about an interview with Jeff Klein, who has written a book called “Work for Good” and in it he uses a quotation from Goethe which gives a hint as to why it’s important to us find a purpose or passion: Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Read more [...]

Days of Our Discontent — Finding Answers

Finding Answers Last week I wrote about how adversity in my life brought me to awakening about three years ago, and not surprisingly, the article struck a chord with many. Most of us are rather too familiar with discontent. I’ve been through many cycles of examining my life-situation, as I’m sure you have too.  And of course during those times many of us feel worry, anxiety, fear, disappointment, hopelessness, defeat, and exhaustion. We want to be fitter, richer, more attractive, more effective, Read more [...]

Our Days of Discontent

Life is simple. Everything happens for you, not to you. Everything happens at exactly the right moment, neither too soon nor too late. You don't have to like it... it's just easier if you do… –Byron Katie Sooner or later, we all face the essential question: what is life about? On the exterior, my life had gone rather smoothly. My family is Indian but I grew up in Uganda, East Africa, which is almost an idyllic place to grow up, if you have money, and we did. Life was very good and easy Read more [...]

How to Stop Compulsive Thoughts: Letting Go in Four Steps

What can we do with those pesky recurring thoughts? They are usually of a negative variety: about longing, or anger, or humiliation, or perhaps vengeance. You’re thinking of something unjust that happened to you or something someone said to you. Or perhaps, you want someone to act or feel a certain way. Sometimes it's your to-do lists. Sometimes recurring thoughts are about wanting to be heard. You have something to say to someone and haven’t been able to and thought-conversations swirl in Read more [...]

Acceptance – 7th Awakening is Simple book excerpt

"Wherever you are, be there totally. If you find your here and now intolerable and it makes you unhappy, you have three options: remove yourself from the situation, change it, or accept it totally" -Tolle Acceptance is hard. The mind thinks acceptance is defeat, resignation, stoic tolerance. The mind thinks acceptance is locking in a reality it doesn’t like. The mind thinks acceptance is giving up hope. It’s actually just the opposite. Change happens only after complete acceptance. We Read more [...]

Flow…In a Few Words

It's all about accessing our natural ability to be in flow. When we are in flow, living improves without effort on our part. Flow is happy, non-resitant living in the Now. It is so very natural that when we "arrive" it's hard to remember how or why we ever lived a life of struggle. Where is happiness to be found? We look for joy outside, in power, relationships, accumulation and many other things that make up living, when joy is already shining inside us. Consciousness, uncluttered with mind-stuff, Read more [...]