Letting go of the F-thing is really rather simple.
Say Aloha. Hello and Good-bye.
I picked up a The Sedona Method book a while back and I don’t know why because when I did I was interested in awakening, not self-development, and I had assumed, wrongly, that this book would be about another one of those conquer-the-world self-improvement buy-me-now things.
It’s actually an amazing tool which works very well for letting go fear. You might get the wrong idea because their marketing is rather pushy.
But the method is a little too complicated in my opinion. Of course, almost everything is too complicated in my opinion. That’s the other problem with opinions.
Still, I think there’s a simpler way to present it.
Now when I tell you this, you’re going to have an “Oh puhleeeeeeeeze” moment. When I say just let it go, you’ll say well if I could just let it go I wouldn’t be reading this. Dumbass.
Say that. And try anyway. The thing is as you read this you will think about letting go. And thinking about letting go is not same as trying to let go. Thinking about letting go will bring up gunk.
Trying to let go is not letting go either but it leads up to it. That’s the only reason we need to practice. We practice to see that practice is not necessary. Because really holding or letting go are both decisions we make. We just don’t know that.
Fear is normal?
My turn: Oh puhleeeeeeeeeeze.
It’s not normal. It’s normal to be scared when a tiger jumps in front of you. In the absence of a tiger, fear is not normal. It may be prevalent but it’s not normal.
Tigers, terrorism, violence, threats—okay, that’s a kind of fear.
Then there is the phobia kind, where you get to learn big words like Aphenphosmphobia.
The one we’re talking about here is the fear which threads through thoughts and emotions. It’s the fear around control, approval, security and completeness. It’s the thing which cleverly disguises itself as beliefs and desires and actions and inaction. Fear is unconsciousness. It is reactivity from conditioning. It is guilt, anger, indecision. It is why you wonder about purpose or futility. It is why you are waiting–waiting while life moves on. It is Karma when you take away all the mysticism from Karma. It’s the underlying psychological unease in you which is constant and prevalent. It’s the fear of tomorrow. It’s the thing which is keeping you from peace, love and joy. It is the claustrophobia that you build around yourself when you seek yourself in beliefs and thoughts. It’s fearophobia. It’s the F-thing.
Don’t face your fear
This is the thing. You don’t want to face fear.
You procrastinate and you don’t make decisions and you don’t take action and you don’t know your purpose and you don’t know how to be and you remain stuck because you don’t want to face fear.
But you don’t have to face fear.
First the set up is wrong. “Facing” is something we do to outside stuff.
Fear is inside. We don’t face it. We look at it inside. Not with defensiveness. With love. Not by readying to squash it. By just looking at it.
Don’t ignore the F-thing
Fear gives the very thing it promises to keep away.
What fear wants is attention. And of course that is the very thing you don’t want to give it.
You are taught to ignore fear. You must overlook, conquer, squash it. You must power through.
And of course these days the spiritual landscape is rife is with positive thinking and the Law of Attraction, and so there is even more ignoring. They say: Be positive, be optimistic, keep attention only on the good, be careful what you put out to the universe. Pseudo-spirituality. Polonius. (That’s the old wheezer in Shakespeare’s Hamlet who was fond of doling out repeatable wise-sounding crap).
You can try all of that stuff. Sooner or later you’ll have to come to terms. Fear will not be ignored.
Instead of trying to snuff it out or “power through” or cover it up with more beliefs and tricks, just simply look at it.
You have to give it attention. You don’t have to play ball with it. You simply have to acknowledge its existence. That’s all you have to do. You don’t have to carry it. You can drop it. But you can’t drop if you don’t look at it.
How it’s done
Allow it. Welcome it. Make space for it.
I know you don’t want to because you’re afraid. Fear of fear.
You can do it bits at a time. It helps if you know the structure of fear. It’s the structure of all emotions. Emotions are body sensations connected to a thought-story. That’s the key.
Thought-story plus body-sensations.
Observe. Observe them separately.
Allow. Welcome. Make space for it.
And then ask yourself if you are ready to let it go.
It’s okay if the answer is no. Or yes.
Either way, try to let it go.
Do this whenever you feel it come up.