Are you unemployed – Lost your job? – Worried about your job? Laid off? Not finding a job? Do you have anxiety about the financial crisis?

Are you unemployed – Lost your job? – Worried about your job? Laid off? Not finding a job? Do you have anxiety about the financial crisis? Here is a simple and definitive method for releasing all anxiety, forever.

Want to know how to release anxiety about job loss, job hunting and the financial crisis once and for all?

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Let’s talk a little about the anxiety and emotions around job loss, job hunting and the financial crisis.

If you have lost your job, or are worried about your job, you are likely feeling some anxiety. You are bracing yourself for how badly it is going to feel. You may be saying all the right things to your friends and family, but your gut is wrenched and tight. If you have been looking for a job, you are questioning your abilities. Why can’t I get a job? Why is nobody calling back? Is my resume good enough? Am I too old? Do I make too much money? Do I not interview well?

Of course all of this is in the turmoil of having to pay the bills, the mortgage, and the essentials. You’re thinking of all ways to save money and cut down.

If you’ve been out of a job for a while, you might have gotten yourself in some bad habits. You get up late, don’t shave or groom as well as you did; it doesn’t really matter how you dress. The laundry piles up; dishes pile up. You have time on your hands, but all you feel like doing is watching TV, or surfing the net.

You’re probably going through the classic stages of handling emotions around life-changing events.

Denial

This cannot possibly be happening. I’m that unlucky; I won’t lose my job. It doesn’t matter if I do, I’ll find another right away. Anyway, what can I do about it?

Disbelief

Holy F**k!!!

Anger

How stupid can they be to fire me? Why aren’t they hiring me, are they stupid? The fat white men on Wall Street caused of all of this. Bush and Cheney—bastards!

Self-criticism

I must not be good enough. I have never made any good decisions in my life.

Detachment

I want to be alone. I am tired. I am exhausted.

Reflection

What can I do?

Mass Depression

This is a particular aspect of these times that with the floundering economy, many people across the world are stressed, in all sorts of ways. This can be a little bit of consolation, in that we say, well, I’m not alone, and it isn’t my fault; on the other hand, the negative group-think is its own energy and pessimism.

Now let’s look at the practical things that the gurus say you can do:

  • Exercise regularly.
  • Eat a healthy diet.
  • Maintain a routine
  • Get enough sleep.
  • Stay away from alcohol and drugs.
  • Connect with family and community
  • Make yourself useful. Volunteer.
  • Don’t watch so much TV
  • Don’t spend so much time surfing the net.
  • Cut down your expenses
  • Find free stuff and services
  • Focus on what you can control
  • Expand your job search: other industries, areas

Remember Polonios’ cynical and disingenuous advice: “Neither a lender or a borrower be”? In Shakespeare’s Hamlet? Polonios was just talking, repeating wise-sounding words. I’ve loaned and borrowed money from family and friends many times; it’s always worked out just fine.

Bloggers and self-improvement gurus and life coaches love to make list of things you should do to improve your life. Shakespeare made the point four hundred years ago that this sort of advice is useless–just repeatable crap  about how to negotiate life in the world of fear and sadness. We hear this stuff, we nod our heads at the profound wisdom, and yet tomorrow is exactly the same.

I recently read an article by a psychologist who said that a little anxiety is good, for it makes us alert. I’m not a psychologist, but I know that what makes me alert is alertness, not anxiety. Anxiety is useless. And so is repeatable advice.

So forget the convention wisdom. It’s conventional, and ineffective. Just repeatable.

Okay, so how?

Want to know how to release anxiety about job loss, job hunting and the financial crisis once and for all? Want to know how to release all anxiety and naturally and effortlessly implement what you already know are good habits?

In mid-2007 I quit my career, as a senior director and CTO in software, to awaken. I traveled, read, learned and wrote and awakened, and it was the best decision I have made in my life.

In mid-2008 I figured it was time get a job. For the first time in my career, I had trouble getting a job. I still don’t have a job, after almost a year of looking.

A year ago, I went through severe anxiety because of financial worries. I had had many episodes of depression and anxiety, but this was different. I had thought I was past all of that with awakening. I wasn’t past the anxiety, and it was a lesson in humility and it was highly disappointing.

It also led me to search for solutions. With the awakening work I had done, I was more intuitive and open, and I found the Sedona Method book while just browsing in a bookstore. I had heard of the Sedona Method but was put off by their heavy marketing, so I was surprised that I was actually interested in the book. I read the first few pages. I found their method a little too heady—a little too much analysis. So I simplified it and adapted and tried it.

I did it a few times a day for about two weeks. I didn’t think it was working, and then one day I realized I had not had any anxiety for several days. I have not had any anxiety ever since then.

The method is simple and easy and effective. The hardest part about the method is trying it. The mind resists, and it says that something so simple cannot work.

The thing about awakening, awareness, and release is not that they are difficult. I say they are not easy and they are not difficult; they are just delicate—they are delicate because it takes an openness to start. It’s all about the openness to allow life to live itself from a place of ease. And everything else falls into place.

Anxiety is a great opportunity to re-learn what you have always known: that it is easy and natural to release emotions. The method works well for anxiety; with practice you will find it will work just as well for other emotions, and recurring thoughts, and in-grained beliefs.

Here it is: How To Release Big and Small Emotions.

Try it. Let me know how it goes.

9 thoughts on “Are you unemployed – Lost your job? – Worried about your job? Laid off? Not finding a job? Do you have anxiety about the financial crisis?

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  2. Annaly

    If I didn’t know better I’d say you were spying on me. I went through all those stages when I lost my job. There are many insidious ways unemployment affects your health that you wouldn’t think about.

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    1. Kaushik Post author

      You’re right: unemployment brings up very difficult emotions. There is of course the financial distress, but beyond that there is a psychological hit because most of wrap up our identity very tightly with what our jobs. The good news is that releasing anxiety over unemployment and loss of identity is not difficult. The release technique works very well for it. If we continue to repress the feelings though, as you say, they can get very insidious.

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  4. Miche - Serenity Hacker

    Yup Kaushik, here I am now, and great post! Now, you’ve got me interested in the Sedona book, which I too, have always been put off by because of the heavy marketing as well. But I’m checking out your post on your refinement of it, first. Then I’m tearing myself away from beyond-karma because I might be here all afternoon… just as good as a trip to the bookstore… one of my favorite things to do! ;)

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    1. Kaushik Post author

      Hi Miche,

      Yes, absolutely, check out the The Sedona Method book. It’s all about letting go and you’ll find that letting go is actually very natural, and as we remember how to let go, it gets easier. At some point I realized it’s not letting go, it’s really just the simple decision not to hold on. Let me know how it goes.

      I hope you are well, my friend!

      k

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