Category Archives: How To Awaken

Awaken Already! with simple awareness and release techniques

Allowing the Disturbing States

When I recognized I was in a “spiritual depression”, I decided I would just let it be. Instead of running after the conventional self-help solutions, what if I just allowed, and continued to rest in awareness, and continued to release? What if I just allowed and watched? What might I learn? What I learned from allowing Love: Loving ourselves enough to want inner peace is the key. We can love ourselves to completely allow, so we can see. The way we know we love someone is when we Read more [...]

How to mend a broken heart

“Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.” I used this quotation from cool-dude Dalai Lama about two years ago in an essay about unrequited love. It’s in one my books I think.  The quotation stuck with me because when I first saw it, I was in pain, from a relationship, not getting what I had wanted. Relationships—as in all human interactions—are the nexus where heaven and earth meet. It is the playground of the ego. Human interactions, particularly Read more [...]

Saying Aloha to Fear

Letting go of the F-thing is really rather simple. Say Aloha. Hello and Good-bye. I picked up a The Sedona Method book a while back and I don’t know why because when I did I was interested in awakening, not self-development, and I had assumed, wrongly, that this book would be about another one of those conquer-the-world self-improvement buy-me-now things. It’s actually an amazing tool which works very well for letting go fear. You might get the wrong idea because their marketing Read more [...]

Healing…

In the last few days, I’ve felt anger. Have you had this experience? It is non-specific annoyance, which left unobserved will find a target and intensify.  I don’t know if it’s anger or fear of both. I’m angry about not finding a job, about my investments gone south, about having to do all this marketing stuff instead of just writing books, about stuff that happened in the past, about the ‘a’ key being stuck on this keyboard…I’m annoyed to have to deal with the seeming trivialities Read more [...]

Days of Our Discontent — Finding Answers

Finding Answers Last week I wrote about how adversity in my life brought me to awakening about three years ago, and not surprisingly, the article struck a chord with many. Most of us are rather too familiar with discontent. I’ve been through many cycles of examining my life-situation, as I’m sure you have too.  And of course during those times many of us feel worry, anxiety, fear, disappointment, hopelessness, defeat, and exhaustion. We want to be fitter, richer, more attractive, more effective, Read more [...]

Why we take a peculiar pleasure in suffering and how to stop

"Observe the peculiar pleasure you derive from being unhappy. Observe the compulsion to talk or think about it." -Eckhart Tolle Have you noticed? We want to be free of pain, but there is a part of us that which takes a peculiar pleasure from reveling in suffering. I had two decades of depression and anxiety before I came to awakening. Some of the episodes were so debilitating that all I could do was atrophy behind a black cloud and watch my life crumble—watching helplessly, as once again, Read more [...]

Call off the Struggle

The Struggle Two Zen monks were walking through the woods. Suddenly, one Zen monk turned to the other and slapped him. “Ouch! Why did you do that!” cried the slapped monk. The first said, “I’m Zen monk, I can get away with shit like that.” It is so very simple. And the ego loves to complicate it. Really, there is absolutely no need to struggle. In the Indian epic, the Mahabharata—the great 50,000 verse epic poem of human delusion and foible, the climactic scene takes place Read more [...]

A Gentle Honesty

Awakening humbles me. A strange thing about awakening is frequently we feel we are very conscious, but then life throws something at us and we react in the same conditioned way we always did. It’s a humbling experience, and that’s the point of it. A year ago I had severe and debilitating anxiety. It was bad enough to have anxiety at all, and this particular bout was especially severe, but on top of that I was upset that I could have anxiety at all. I had thought. with awakening I had overcome Read more [...]

How to Stop Compulsive Thoughts: Letting Go in Four Steps

What can we do with those pesky recurring thoughts? They are usually of a negative variety: about longing, or anger, or humiliation, or perhaps vengeance. You’re thinking of something unjust that happened to you or something someone said to you. Or perhaps, you want someone to act or feel a certain way. Sometimes it's your to-do lists. Sometimes recurring thoughts are about wanting to be heard. You have something to say to someone and haven’t been able to and thought-conversations swirl in Read more [...]

Being Present – 9th excerpt from Awakening is Simple, and Closing

Being Present The present moment has always been available to spiritual seekers, but as long as you are seeking you are not available to the present moment. "Seeking" implies that you are looking to the future for some answer, or for some achievement, spiritual or otherwise. Everybody is in the seeking mode, seeking to add something to who they are, whether it be money, relationships, possessions, knowledge, status.. or spiritual attainment. –Eckhart Tolle The immediacy of life in the present Read more [...]