You don’t need no F-thing

What I want is for you to be aware. To live consciously.

I don’t want it for you like the republicans want you to be republican. Or insert your –an,  -ist.


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I don’t want it like an organization. Not like the law of attraction or some other belief system working on people’s desires and hopes.

So actually I don’t want it for you. It’s more like here it is. Take it if you’re ready. Pay me, so I can continue to do more. If you want.

It’s just that it’s helped me. Transformed, really. I’m very different. Fuller, happier, lighter, freer. No end to it, it continues. It’s effortless, so why not?

You look around and you see strife. People are unhappy. Even happy people are unhappy.  This is fragile they are thinking.

It’s strange because it’s so simple. War and starving children and injustice and abuse and cruelty. Meaninglessness. Purposelessness.  Emptiness inside. It’s all because of fear and sadness in individuals.

Fear and sadness

You can’t settle. You can’t just be. You must be able to see that is weird. That you can’t just sit and be. Even a tree knows how to just be.

With some people I can feel their fear. Just standing in the same room. I can feel their inside world of fear and sadness, the shaking and tremor and the movement inside, all gecko-like.

F-thing. (Fear, in case you were thinking of the other thing because we like the other thing.)

It’s only because you created a concept of yourself. And then everything you do and say and think and feel is for that concept, not for you. So, a wall builds up, a wall of thought, emotions, stuck patterns. Closes you in. That’s fear.

It doesn’t have to be like that. That’s what I’m trying to say.

What’s boring

Not interested in religion, spirituality, complicated theories of existence. Not interested in heaven, hell, reincarnation, karma, brahma.

Not interested in memorizing other people’s words.

Not interested in self-improvement because that’s really just more effort, struggle, self-discipline.

Not interested in –ist, -ism, -an, neo- and the rest. Not interested in “positive thinking” or the law of attraction. Not interested in divisions of religion, countries, nationalism, class, money.

All that is just more beliefs. More angst.

It’s not about accumulating more mind-stuff. Truth is here when you’re willing to let go of the rubbish.

Ready people

The shift from not-ready to ready—I don’t know how to show that. It just happens. Maybe from misery. Had enough of this. The seeing that it’s all about what’s inside not outside. Maybe a glimpse of clarity. For some, spirituality or intellect. A dream. An accidental relaxation of the ego. A seeing that a unified mind doesn’t argue with itself. Maybe from exhaustion, tired of the same old. Don’t know how this willingness happens.

What’s fun

Opening up. Living consciously. Being gentle, unoccupied awareness. Living fully, openly, lovingly, freely. Being easy, as in let it come to me. And it does.

Letting go. Of stuck patterns. Healing. Being rid of the F-thing. Letting go helps with the problems of life. Oddly, happily, problems help us awaken. So I talk about how get past these pesky problems. How to release anxiety, worry, fear, depression. How to get past addictions. How to maintain health and weight. How to find purpose. Get over emotional pain. Release stress. Get over that stupid person who just will not see the way you want.

Letting go helps us awaken. Awakening helps us let go. It’s a ying-yang thing. What’s not to like?

-showing you you can do this too. Showing you what is false in you. Showing it’s not about getting to enlightenment—it’s about starting the journey, getting into the flow of it. We do it together. How to be open, free, loving, easy. Opening up and Letting go.

Well, it’s here if you want it.

-other stuff I’m interested in. Making  a living at this. Writing. A lot. Loving family & friends. Making more friends. Traveling. Being part of this thing that’s happening in the world. This awakening thing.

43 thoughts on “You don’t need no F-thing

  1. Nadia - Happy Lotus

    Hi Kaushik,

    This post reminds me of good example of stream of consciousness writing.

    In my experience, fear sucks and is an illusion. No doubt about it. Life is full of possibilities if we just simply break out of the box that we have created for ourselves. Life is whatever we make out of it.

    Hope all is well and it is wonderful that you know how you want to live your life.

    1. Kaushik Post author

      Hi Nadia,

      Thanks, and yes fear is it. At the bottom of all that we consider negative is this undifferentiated emotion of fear. It comes about from believing the illusion of separation.

      I hope you are well too!


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    1. Kaushik Post author

      Hi Steven,

      Interesting analogy. Sometimes it takes a shocking vision to show us that it’s not about thinking. The Zen admonition “if you see the Buddha kill him!” is similar to yours.



    1. Kaushik Post author

      Hi Masi,

      The root cause of many of things which trouble us, like addictions and purposelessness and anger and depression and sorrow, is fear. It’s the fear that’s caused by being closed in by thoughts and beliefs and concepts and stuck patterns. And strangely, it’s the fear itself which keeps us from seeing that the main resistance we have is our identification with thought.

      So this is one way of looking through the resistance. Yes, absolutely, kick-it-up, my dear friend.


  3. Char (PSI Tutor:Mentor)

    Whenever I feel “bored” I see that as a time to let something go~ clean up garden, remove clutter, body cleanse, file my emails etc…

    Having so much more time and peace of mind after letting something go really does bring forth the incredible lightness of being~

    1. Kaushik Post author

      Ah, yes, lightness of being–a wonderful way to describe the feeling! It really just comes down to letting go.

      Thanks, Char.


  4. Lisis

    Kaushik, I really FEEL this post of yours. I’m totally with you on this, especially the “What’s Boring” section. Blogging has been quite a challenge for me because I feel like blog readers are looking for MORE answers, MORE lists and tips and tricks and words to memorize or recite, or ideas to get behind, or mantras to chant or pills to take. But NONE of that will help them see what is already there… what has always been there.

    It’s not about finding more; it’s about searching less.

    How do you teach that to someone who doesn’t FEEL it? The only way I know to do it is by example. So I end up writing about my life, what I’m doing, how I make my decisions, how I deal with my challenges and just keep going because it’s all gonna be OK.

    But I often feel like the readers are thinking, “OK, that’s great for you, but what about ME? What actionable steps can I take today to get on that path?”

    Ugh. You’re already ON the path. Maybe you still can’t see it, but it’s there. How can I give you directions to somewhere you already are?

    (Sorry for the mini-post here!) 🙂
    .-= Lisis´s last blog ..The Tripod of Balance: Health, Wealth, and Relationships =-.

    1. Kaushik Post author

      Hi Lisis,

      Yes, great point. In the Power of Now, in the very beginning, Tolle says the great obstacle to clear seeing is the deep identification with thought, which causes thought to be compulsive, and obscures clarity. And, in the next few pages he discusses the mind’s tendency to run after knowledge and understanding. Once we’ve understood the basic dysfunction there really isn’t much more we need to understand mentally.

      But of course this is the power of delusion. We will continue to try to understand mentally. And this keeps us, as you say very well, from seeing what is already here.

      There are actionable steps we can take. Practices. Observing thought is a good, simple, easy-to-incorporate-into-daily-living kind of practice. So is releasing. A good practice is one which helps us see that practice was never necessary.

      Yes, we’re already, always were, ON the path!

      Great comment, Lisis, thank you!


  5. Lisis

    You’re welcome. Thank you, Kaushik, for sharing your soul so openly with us. You are a wonderful example of what is possible. 🙂

  6. Masi

    I’m kicking it, Kaushik, I’m kickin’ it!

    I had a full day of play, play, and more play 🙂 I turned every incident of my day into bliss!

    with love,


  7. Megan "JoyGirl!" Bord

    I’m intrigued as much by the post as by the comments. As Nadia said, your writing is very stream of consciousness, but it’s beyond that in my eyes. It’s like your desire to influence through words is releasing itself. Everything in you seems to be surrendering — more than when I first started reading your blog six months ago.
    .-= Megan “JoyGirl!” Bord´s last blog ..Read. LAUGH! Repeat. =-.

    1. Kaushik Post author

      H JoyGirl,

      I haven’t posted it yet but I’ve written an article on writing, about how writing style reflects the process of awakening. Mine here on this site has gone from very serious almost preachy in the beginning to flowing metaphors to this less-is-more stream. It’s fun!

      Yes, surrendering. What a relief!

      Hope you are doing well my friend.


  8. Jodi at Joy Discovered

    Hi Kaushik, I like your thoughts here. I like it that we can take it, if we’re ready, or not. I am still thinking about your comment to my post about how awakening and forgiving and healing, etc. etc. etc. is thought to be a “doing” of more and better things when in reality is a “not doing” of those things which get in the way of living authentically and joyfully. You are very good at illustrating this point about our thoughts and our concepts of self/others getting in the way of just being. Thank you. This is good stuff!
    .-= Jodi at Joy Discovered´s last blog ..Forgiveness, Letting Go, and Freedom =-.

    1. Kaushik Post author

      Hi Jodi,
      It’s about letting and not about accumulating more and better understanding–this was a critical realization for me. Acceptance is not something we do; it’s something we stop doing. When we stop resisting what is rising anyway, that is accepting. Awareness is not a getting; it is letting go of the attachment to thought. Forgiveness is the letting go of the need to forgive. We seek forgiveness or we forgive only when we think there is a need for this. When we know that everyone does absolutely the best they can given the circumstances of conditioning, there really is no need to forgive or be forgiven. Surrender is letting go of the ego. The Now is the letting go of the concept of future and past.

      As spiritual concepts these are difficult to understand. But when we can let go of the need to understand conceptually, they become easy experience.

      Thanks for the wonderful insight!


    1. Kaushik Post author

      Hi Paul,

      Yes, as I’ve let go, and become more conscious, it has become abundantly clear that awakening to peace and love and joy is as simple as letting go of fear.


  9. Zeenat {Positive Provocations}

    This is abeautiful post! I am so with you…on letting go of all the predetermined notions of spirituality and what not thats thrown in our faces every single day…JUst letting go..and being alive..simply living in the Now …thats Awakening right there.
    I felt like your words went right into me…
    I so so needed to read this…its refreshing to read your ways of thinking….
    May you do a lot more wonderful writing, loving, traveling…and making friends.
    Know that you’ve made a friend in me already 🙂
    With Love
    .-= Zeenat {Positive Provocations}´s last blog ..Multiple Personality By Choice! =-.

    1. Kaushik Post author

      Hi Zeenat,
      It’s so nice to hear from you. Yes, our right it’s allow about letting go of assumptions, and deeper than that, letting go of the constant compulsion to think, and then Truth emerges.

      “Know that you’ve made a friend in me already :)” Ah…so nice.

      With love back

  10. Wilma Ham

    Hi Kaushik

    Control, we want control and being a tree is something we cannot yet access. A tree looks like it has no control.

    You say; “Don’t know how this willingness happens”.

    It is like I do not know how spinach tastes and therefore I do not want to give it a go.

    What makes a person try it?

    As long as I can try it, the world is okay.
    As long as I generously share my experience freely, the world is okay.

    As long as I connect with you, who also tries, the world is okay.

    Love Wilma

    1. Kaushik Post author

      Hey Wilma,

      Yes, there needs to be a willingness. My opening came after I was exhausted from the misery of living in the dualistic mind. Whether it is from exhaustion or misery or some glimpse of clarity or spirituality–I don’t really know. It would be fun to find the trigger.

      Trying is it. I say to people not to worry about the big-bang event of awakening. It’s really just about getting into the flow. And then it’s effortless.

      Thanks, once again, for your practical wisdom! I hope you’re doing very well!


  11. Brenda

    Hi Kaushik

    You continue to reveal yourself in different ways in your writing — the plain-style articles in the beginning, the boyhood stories, the bumped-up articles with quotes later on, the poem-like piece last week, and now this carefree you don’t need no thing thing. The style varies and the message remains the same — it’s easier than you think, folks! My favorite piece is probably the one where you wrote in your comment, I think Brenda will like this one. What was the style of that one? I recall that it made me shout in reaction to the sheer surprise of seeing something so different from you.

    I’m eager to see how you approached your piece on writing. Right now, I’m finding myself drawn to the narrative style as a reader and a writer. I love good stories, as long as they’re not too tragic. I’d like to read more stories about your continent-hopping youth. I know it’s tragic being run out of your country by dictators and insurgents, but there must have been some poignancy and humor surrounding those events as well, especially for a child who hasn’t yet taken on a tragic worldview. Smiles to you. 🙂
    .-= Brenda´s last blog ..Like Julia =-.

    1. Kaushik Post author

      Hi Brenda,

      Thanks again for the kind words. Yes, the writing style changes as awareness deepens. And people respond to variously to moods and styles so I try out different styles.

      And you’ve put it so well: getting into to the flow of awakening is easier than we make it out to be. It’s just about effortless noticing. And I’m trying to say the basic message and what it feels like in various styles.

      More stories? Okay, I’ll try!

      Peace my friend,

  12. Andrew

    “Zen does not confuse spirituality with thinking about God while one is peeling potatoes. Zen spirituality is just to peel the potatoes.”

    -Alan watts

  13. Gina

    Hmm. Must think about this for a while. Yes, fear is a hindrance. I go into it and I come out of it again. But I think I’m finding that I learn things when I’m there. I talk to it, I ask it what it wants, what it trying to protect me from. I don’t always agree that I need protecting from whatever it is, but at least then I know that.

    I hold on, I let go. I contract, I expand. (Love the expanding.)

    Yin yang indeed.
    .-= Gina´s last blog ..Where’s Your Valve? =-.

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  16. alex - unleash reality

    Kaushik you legend!!

    really really enjoyed reading this won. your writing is getting a lot more hypnotic. or maybe i’m just happy. peh, either way – really buzzing after that little sip of zenly wisdom.

    “even happy people are unhappy. This is fragile” – really liked that.

    and yeah, know exactly where you’re going with “ready people”… but i’m kinda torn about it. torn the way i am about getting things done via releasing ala sedona method or whether the whole ego approach is not a better means. then my mind kicks in and rightly points out that the goals differ, like an eastern view of a healthy body differs greatly from a western view of a healthy body (big muscles for one).

    still deciding on where i stand when it comes to ready people. of that much i’m sure.

    checking out your letting go article now.


    hope all’s well mate
    alex – unleash reality

    1. Kaushik Post author

      Hi Alex,

      I love your energy and your inquisitiveness!

      Yes, it can be confusing. As you say, the mind kicks in. And like everything else, we can simply allow the confusion to be. It’s just another point of view in Awareness. When we can be awareness, instead of being attached to particular points of view in Awareness, Truth emerges. And then it’s simple.


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