What works and what doesn’t work

What works

What I talk about here I talk about from direct experience. There is nothing here which is based on beliefs or concepts.

In the last four or five years of exploring, these are things I’ve found:

-Most human beings operate from fear and desire. This is what the Buddha called dukkha, or discontent, or if you want to be cute about it, call it dis-ease. We are not easy with life.

-Most of us have accepted this state of discontent and unease as our natural state.

-All of our troubles arise from self-deception.

-There is a way out, or rather a way back. The way back is awakening out of the delusions of the mind. Start by looking at the compelling identification you have with your thoughts.

-In looking for a way back, the biggest obstacle is the ego. Eckhart Tolle in the Power of Now probably has the clearest explanation of this. The ego (thoughts and emotions about self) and the pain body (remembered patterns of reactivity) are diabolical in the way that they first keep you from even seeing the possibility of awakening, and second, even if you’re lucky enough to see the possibility of awakening, the ego and pain-body will take over the practices and process of awakening.

I am not completely free yet.

But at this point I have complete confidence that it’s just a matter of continuing to look. Allow, and watch, with patience and stark honesty, without judgment or self-blame.

I can release very easily now, I can shift to presence easily, I see through the false self, and I can be nakedly honest with myself.

None of this however is abiding; it takes a conscious decision to shift away from the mind.

And so there is further to go.

I’m not yet sure what the next step is, but, as it has happened many times in the last few years, the next awakening step will present itself in good time. I’m easy about all this awakening stuff now–it unfolds naturally and its own.

I am grateful to depression. It is what brought me here and now. And I can offer hope to people who have depression and anxiety.

Anxiety, and all its cousins, like worry and fear and uneasiness, do go away with releasing.

Depression does not go away with awakening–at least this is my experience. The psychological aspects of depression–the unhappiness and dark futility and desperate feelings of helplessness–all that does go away. And that’s huge.

But some of the physical symptoms can remain, which is not surprising, because the affliction of depression is not just emotional constipation; it has physical causes as well. I have periodic bouts of low-energy, insomnia, weight-shifts, and problems with memory and concentration. But without the accompanying unhappiness and sense of futility, the physical symptoms are easily managed.

I am also now beginning to resolve the seeming conflict between awakening and the practical demands of living. It seemed to me that in the process of awakening over the last few years, my external life got harder, not easier. This was a rather puzzling.

But everything that happens is a reflection of what’s inside, not what’s outside.

With awakening, there is less and less comfort with the conventional codes of society. And we tend to pay more attention to what’s going on inside, recognizing fear and sadness and negativity, and so it might seem that there is greater emphasis on what is wrong than what is right. There is less and less satisfaction in the activities which previously might have seemed highly pleasing to the ego. There is less and less motivation for behavior which previously we might have conditioned ourselves not to look at very deeply.

For example, the motivation it takes to be successful in the corporate world, the things people do to gain advantage and validation in social situations, the things we do to self-improve, in fact, all the things we do to be “successful” with money and security and approval and relationships–these things begin to fade because it becomes harder and harder to pretend. That’s not always comfortable because other people and even our own conditioned selves have expectations of us.

The wisdom I have is to always fully allow, and watch, with patience and love, not with self-judgment or self-blame.

We also have to acknowledge that acceptance and allowing are not the easiest things to do.

It brings up doubts. It can take time. Life moves on inexorably; it doesn’t stop for us while we try to awaken.

And so there is seeming conflict between awakening and the practical demands of life, and this can bring about doubt and disillusionment, detachment, isolation, confusion, anger, embarrassment, a sense of having failed, and so on, and we just have to know that these are a natural and temporary part of the process.

There is a tendency to plan less and less. Of course, the planning for practical things is necessary, but I mean the tendency for psychological planning for future happiness begins to fade. The tendency to think I will be happy when I get more money or a better job or the right person in my life or when I look better or when I’ve fixed certain aspects of myself–this sort of planning begins to fade.

It all comes to down to looking inside, with honesty.

If you want a recipe, here is one:

-Learn a release technique, like the one I have here. This is something which you can do for yourself which has immediate and lasting benefits.

-Read the awakened teachers, the ones who are direct and contemporary, like Tolle and Adyashanti and Jed Mckenna.

-Develop self-honesty. Be on the lookout for the tricks of the ego. Self-deception will angrily lash out at self-honesty.

-Look inside. Some ways of looking inside are awareness, observing thought, meditation, and release.

See that you do not exist. Who you think you are does not exist. How can this be true? You have to recognize this, not just agree with it.

-Understand what it means to accept. Accepting is not something you do; it is something you stop doing. You stop resisting.

What doesn’t work

I caution people against spirituality.

Spirituality of course a broad term and covers everything from African drumming to Rastas.

And I’m not dismissing all of spirituality. That would be silly.

Clearly, the world’s spiritual and even religious traditions, at their core, are about awakening, and have tremendous wisdom.

But when there is attachment to particular ideology or concepts or terminology, the ego has taken over spiritual intentions.

You must be spiritually suspicious. You must be starkly honest. You must acknowledge that the ego can and does abscond with your spiritual beliefs and practices. The ego will want to build up a spiritual identity, which accumulates knowledge and concepts and beliefs, and behaves in certain compassionate ways, and gets a great deal of validation from this.

A spiritualized ego is a pretty tough nut crack.

And of course there are all the new-age spiritual movements, fringing around sound-bites, and playing up to people’s frantic desires. Positive thinking, the law of attraction, finding purpose and finding passion, affirmations, and the rest of the billion-dollar crap which makes up the spiritual and self-improvement marketplace—these play up to people’s fears and desires.
There is of course nothing wrong with any of this, if you want to go this way, but it really has nothing to do with awakening.

Take positive thinking. How can there be anything wrong with positive thinking–it’s positive after all. When we’re positive, we energetic, we get up in the morning and go, it’s easy to make decisions, we are comfortable with other people, we’re proud of ourselves, we know what to do.

But positivity does not come from cultivating positive thinking. Take a minute, sit, and look inside, with honesty. You’re not going to become positive by convincing yourself you’re positive. Doesn’t it make more sense to allow whatever is, to look, to watch, and to let go? Doesn’t it make more sense to face up to whatever is negative, and to just allow, let it be, watch, and let go?

The law of attraction and The Secret and what not–this is a fascinating phenomenon. The fevered tempo around The Secret would make one think it’s best thing that’s ever happened. And it is, for the ego, because what could be better than getting what you want just by thinking about it? It doesn’t have to work, just the belief that it could work is highly appealing to the ego. Never mind that literally billions of people in world go without basic needs, and these desperate people think about food and water much harder than you and I think about money or relationships or a Ferrari. But in the unconscious mind, we’re pretty good at brushing aside these inconvenient discrepancies.

Now, I don’t pretend to know how the Universe works, so I’m not dismissing or supporting any belief system. But to believe that the Universe responds to the ego’s desirous thoughts is not a reasonable hypothesis. There is nothing in my experience which supports this.

And besides, if the Law of attraction works, then the life you have now is exactly the life you wanted. Give that a think.

A more reasonable hypothesis is that the Universe interacts with what you are, not what you think. And what most of us are, are balls of fear and sadness. So it seems much more sensible to me to awaken out of this delusional tangled-web of fear and sadness than to sit around visualizing my next Ferrari or the girl of my dreams.

I’m not taking a stand against spirituality or the secret or positive thinking–what I’m trying to do here is to show how crafty the ego is in running away with and corrupting your spiritual intentions.

And this is why you need to develop self-honesty.

29 thoughts on “What works and what doesn’t work

  1. Jonas

    Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts. I found so many parallels between your journey and mine!

    “The Power of Now” made a huge impact on me, together with “The Mandala of Being”. I can only second your comments on self-honesty and self-awareness. Probably my biggest shift is coming now that I am becoming more aware of my thought processes and my reactivity.

    I have personally made the experience that with becoming more awake the symptoms of distress can come back even more strongly after a first period of bliss. I take this to mean that the integration process is underway, going through a lot of “cognitive dissonance”, coming to terms that I have made life difficult for myself in the past. I am aware that this sounds paradoxical, but I am sure I’m on a good path.

    Thanks again for sharing your great tips, I would maybe add “deep belly breathing” as part of a relaxation exercise and becoming aware of how each of us (co-)creates the world according to his/her beliefs and fears.

    “Everything you see in the world is part of you” – Stephen Gilligan
    “What you react to in others, you strengthen in yourself” – Eckhart Tolle

    Thank you,

    Jonas

    1. Kaushik Post author

      Thanks, Jonas.

      It does sound like our experiences are similar.

      And you’re right: awakening isn’t always comfortable. As you point out, there is dissonance. For some reason, not many awakened teachers talk about this.

      “deep belly breathing” is a good one. Whenever I am actively releasing, the first thing I do is to make sure I am breathing well. It seems like a natural part of releasing and I forget to mention it.

      Your quotations are reminiscent of the Buddhist saying that whatever offends (angers, saddens, insults) you about others, is because you’re afraid of the same thing in you. This is something that’s hard for us to understand in the beginning, but if we watch our reactions to others, particularly the negative ones, it’s often because we are afraid of the same patterns in us.

      Thanks for the insights and hope to see you here again.

      k

  2. Jesinalbuqeurque

    This is a deeply insightful and powerful post. It arrived at just the right time (how does that *happen*?? 🙂 and just stunned me. Thank you.

    1. Kaushik Post author

      It is almost mystical how whatever we need next simply jumps up at us. I suppose it’s all around us and we only recognize when we are ready.

  3. Philip

    Hey Kaushik,
    Long time since we’ve heard from you. I have come to a realisation that everything anyone writes or say about this is inevitably dualistic and conceptual. This is nothing to do with spirituality, once you even use the word you are locked into becoming something not being. As Tony Parsons says it is so utterly simple, obvious and so complete already that it is totally obscure, until this is just seen and seen by no one, separation continues. The is no such thing as enlightenment, awakening or liberation that’s the delusion, that’s the mind forming its own virtual reality that there is something to do. When it is seen that there is nothing to get, nothing to understand, nothing to become, when the resistance to realising that’s what is happening is all there is falls away, then it is seen. This is it, what’s happening, so spine chillingly simple and evident. This is a terrible message for me, because I so totally believe in this thing called time and future but there is only this and it belongs to no one.
    Love Phil

    1. Kaushik Post author

      Yup, you’re right, words are symbols. For the most part people read this and try to understand and debate it conceptually. But sometimes we’re open enough, probably because we’re tired of suffering or because we somehow realize that we’re in trap, and then we actually look at what the words point to.

      You’re also right that the mind will create it’s own ideas about enlightenment and spirituality and releasing and freedom and presence and everything else. And that’s no quite it.

      It’s an insidious trap. Maya is a bitch.

  4. Nitin

    Namste Kaushikbhai,

    The pic of yours has great smile, and during the TV watching tonight, I show the Amir khan smile remind me the joy, which we all want to keep it for ever. Yaa, nice How ? A question arise (witnessing) and then I read the philip comment and your respond to him.
    Mind is playing all the games and Maya is a great bitch and was admitted by Hindu God Shanker. Then what is the conclusion ? “No way Out and we are all trapped in.” Mind wants the conclusion and not happy with any answer, even if one find the real awareness, he has to wonder why me only….?
    Life goes on it does not matter what we are who we are and what we think about life. Totally agreed with you that universe interact with you and not with your thoughts. That remind me the non-duality, we are all part of each other and soon we recognized it sooner we can enjoy Maya’s play and cherish with joy. Lets hope the middle east people will find the way to live peacefully within themselves.
    Again, its easy to write an assay and lecture about this, wish to experience in real life. with this struggle continue….
    As usual, nice to read your comment and post.
    Cheers ..
    Nitin

    1. Kaushik Post author

      Hey Nitinbhai,
      Hehe, Amir Khan…

      Yeah, looks like the middle east is falling apart. A few years back I took a break from television completely for about six months. It really gives an interesting perspective. Jed Mckenna says a good trick is watch the news as if it happened six months ago.

      Yes, you’re right, it’s easy to talk about these things using words and concepts. The trick is to actually look.

      Hope you are well; always a pleasure to hear from you here!

      Namaste,
      k

  5. Cyberchick

    Hi Kaushik,

    I’m surprised to hear you talk about the importance of self-honesty, because you have talked at length about there not being a “you” or a self. There is noone who can be honest, no self to be honest WITH. And just as there is no self-honesty, there is no self-deception. There is just honesty and deception, and neither of these things belong to or are enacted by anyone. They simply are.

    Why is it important to meditate? After all, there is no ‘you’, independent from the mind, who is doing the meditation. ‘You’ are simply another thought. So what would actually be meditating? And if the mind doesn’t belong to anyone, then why must detachment from it happen? It’s a brain that doesn’t even belong to you. It simply is. Even if it is chaotic and throwing out lies, what is the harm in letting it be just as it is? It is just one of many things that are a part of this world, no better and no worse.

    Just some things I have been thinking about, and I would be interested to hear your opinions. 🙂

    1. Kaushik Post author

      Cyberchick, you bring up an excellent point.

      Right, there is no you. So who is it who can be honest or deceptive?

      Well , there isn’t a you. There never was. And yet there is self-honesty and self-deception. In fact, without self-deception, the false you cannot be created by the mind.

      The mechanism of honesty and self-deception are independent from the delusion of the you. In fact the mechanism of any characteristic or conditioning or pain or thought or emotion are independent from the existence of you. They have to be because the you never existed.

      You don’t exist. You never did. And yet these other things like honesty and self-deception and conditioning and so on, persist.

      Why is it important to meditate, when we know that that you who is meditating does not exist? Well, again, the you never existed. You don’t meditate; meditation happens. Now for many people, the you takes credit for meditation and spirituality–and this is exactly why I caution against spirituality. It’s very easy to develop a spiritualized ego. It’s very easy for the false you to claim credit for spirituality, and this is exactly what happens to people who consider themselves highly spiritual.

      Yes, the mind does not belong to anyone. It just is, and it is the mind which creates the idea of you. So what is the harm in letting it be? No harm at all. If you can just let ibe, just as it is–well that is awakening!

      Thanks for you excellent insights!

      k

  6. Ralph

    Sometimes Kaushik, when you speak about “I do not exist”, it comes across like you are speaking about nothingness , there is an empty and void feeling in your expression. The aliveness and fullness is lacking in your words.

    The way I see it is that you DO exist but not as the one you take yourself to be. You are ALL of it, appearances included. You are Love itself expressing itself in many different ways.

    Sorry but I don’t feel the Oneness in your words.

    1. Kaushik Post author

      Clearly, something exists. Even if everything we know is a delusion, there is something which is aware. So to say “you do not exist” does not deny existence. What it says is that the you you think you are does not exist.

      Now it might make some people feel better to say that the you that you think you are does not exist, but don’t worry, Love does exist and Oneness does exist, and all of it is appearances and so on.

      But look into with honesty. It is only ego which needs to feel better. It is the ego which is afraid of awakening, so to the ego “you do not exist” is a very fearful and nihilistic idea. It can’t possibly be true that nothing exists, but yet the ego will overlook this undeniable truth and still want an overt statement to make itself feel better. Essentially, the ego wants to survive.

      You don’t like this because you feel the nihilism in it. Other people I have come across don’t like it because they are attached to particular syntax and terminology. They don’t like to hear you don’t exist; they would rather hear the false you does not exist.

      And others don’t like it because of where the technique comes from. And all of this is the fear of awakening; it is the ego’s will to survive.

      Like every other awakening technique, it must be actually experienced. Look, with honesty, and not with what the ego wants to find. Nobody who as actually tried the technique has disappeared in puff of nihilistic smoke.

      I don’t talk about Oneness because, like God and many other spiritual concepts, at one time it may have pointed to truth. Now it’s just a dead, repeatable cliche.

  7. Cyberchick

    K, I agree with you — the mind has been deceiptful in creating a self that does not actually exists. To see through this is honesty. But those things are simply deceit and honesty. Why label them as self-honesty and self-deceit — because they pertain to notions of a self existing? Maybe I have misunderstood what you mean by those terms. When I think of ‘self-honesty’ and ‘self-deceipt’, I think of honesty and deceit which the self is enacting — the idea that a self is BEING honest or deceitful about itself. I took issue with you using those terms, based on how I understand them.

    Ralph, there is no self. It doesn’t mean there is a void or nothingness because there is no self. In everything that exists — the brain, the body, thoughts, feelings, beliefs, life — there has never been a self or a ‘you’. ‘You’ is a concept created by the brain that has no real life referent. When you say “You are ALL of it, appearances included. You are Love itself expressing itself in many different ways.”, that is only an IDEA of what ‘you’ is. But when the idea or thinking stops, so does the ‘you’. Everything else remains — love, appearances. ‘I’ and ‘me’ are grammatical subjects and objects that do not point to anything that is real. THey are simply the content of thought. Anything we think it points to already has an existence and to say that they are the ‘self’ or part of the ‘self’ is simply adding an extra layer of meaning to it all — a useless layer of meaning. (sorry K, I hope that is okay that I am cutting in, I’m not trying to take over)

    1. Kaushik Post author

      I see what you’re saying. I say self-deception and self-honesty not to say that they belong to the self, but to distinguish them from external deception and external honesty. We’re not talking about the moralistic sort of honesty; we’re talking about the honesty whereby the conditioned action to deceive internally begins to fade. So perhaps internal honesty is a better term than self-honesty.

      No problem cutting in, we’re all about openness and honesty here. 🙂

  8. Cyberchick

    Thanks for clarifying, K. I understand now what you were trying to say. And thanks for providing a forum for us all to interact in. 🙂

  9. Ralph

    Here is another way of looking at this:

    Who you’ think’ you are does exist because it is happening that way BUT who/what you truly are is the Awareness that SEES this separation but does not exclude it.

    Now, I ask you, … if you don’t exist, then do you not feel anymore ? … and if you do feel, then who feels, if not you ? … Which you are you ? …. perhaps there is only one ‘you’ and that ‘you’ includes ‘me’… perhaps there is really only one of us ?
    .

    1. Kaushik Post author

      Everything remains. Thoughts, feelings, awareness, identity…all of these remain, but they don’t belong to you. The delusion is that all of these things which are experienced must be owned by you. They are not owned by you, because the you that you think you are does not exist. You don’t exist, but everything else does.

      When you recognize that you don’t exist, everything else does not vanish. Everything remains. Thoughts, feelings, Awareness, Oneness, the delusion of separation…all of it remains, because nothing is owned or created by the idea of you, because you never existed, except as an idea.

      The hint is what you say here: “…if you don’t exist, then do you not feel anymore?” This question pre-supposes that feelings require a you. There are feelings but they are not your feelings. There are feelings before you think there is a you, and there are feelings after you recognize there is no you, because feelings are real, but the you is just and ephemeral and constantly-created idea.

      Feelings exist; it’s just that they are not your feelings. Awareness exists, but it is not your Awareness.

      1. Ralph

        You say ” Feelings exist; it’s just that they are not your feelings “.

        I have 2 question for you :

        How can feelings exist without a you ? …and what creates the feelings if there is no you ?

        1. Kaushik Post author

          Exactly! How can feelings exist without a you? This is exactly the inquiry. Look into it. With honesty, not with platitudes.

          Feelings can and do exist without a you. It is not the you which creates feelings. Feelings, thoughts, Awareness, love, Life, experience–all of these existed before the delusion of you is created, and they exist while you are deluded, and they exist after the delusion is recognized.

          The you that you think you are does not refer to anything.

          The you that you think you are is what Nisgardatta refers to as one of the “self-identifications” in his quotation. It can be thrown away.

          It seems to make you feel better to use “you” to refer to Awareness (or Oneeness or Love) rather than the false sense of self. Try to see that this is just the ego’s fear of awakening. The ego is always afraid of annihilation, and when it comes across something as direct and compelling as “you do not exist” it immediately wants to qualify and soften this technique to say, yeah but don’t worry, you will continue to exist as Awareness.

          But it’s not as if the you exists and it jumps from identification with the ego to identification with Oneness. The you you think you are simply does not refer to anything.

          Look with honesty, without any sort of qualification. The fear of nihilism is just the ego’s will to survive. It’s like when Tolle tells people to be present, and egos jump up and say, wait a minute, but the present moment and boring and empty. You actually have to look and experience.

  10. Ralph

    I guess I’m not doing a good job in explaining this.

    … perhaps this quote by Nisargadatta may help.

    ” Love is seeing the unity under the imaginary diversity. When all the false self-identifications are thrown away, what remains is all-embracing love. To see myself in everybody, and everybody in myself, most certainly is love.

    When you realize that all is in your mind, and that you are beyond the mind, that you are truly alone, then all is you. Love says “I am everything.” Wisdom says “I am nothing.” Between these two, my life flows “.

  11. Janice

    Good Morning Mr. K.,
    I have a question that I hope you may have some insight into. Is it normal or not unusual for someone (me) to have significant things taken away during the awakening process? Maybe it is not an awakening process, who knows? But, 6-7 months ago I lost my realization of the God that I have always known. Now my God is so different, so much more inclusive and present. It doesn’t feel great, just different. Also, I lost a significant amount of money. For someone who grow up in poverty, this financial instability is shocking, a place that I never believed I would ever be again. Also, recently, I have stopped smoking cigarettes. I have smoke my entire adult life. Now no smoking. I am working with a support group to stop smoking, but, I have tried many times before and failed. Now I am not smoking.
    I have also stopped my constant seeking on the topics of enlightenment. Books, web sites, youtube.
    All of the searching is slowing way down.
    If you have a moment I would really appreciate your feedback. I am not sure what is happening to me.
    Also, I have re-connected with my father after 20 years of an all most absent relationship. I just felt like it was time.
    Any insights, would be greatly appreciated.
    Janice
    P.S. I have not been talking about this to anyone, but, I am curious about what you think.
    I hope you are well. You sound great here.
    I also apologize for this message being so self obsessed. It’s just that I am trying to just be myself, in my life, but, things are really changing.

    1. Kaushik Post author

      My stories are similar. My first insight was was upon reading the Power of Now about four years ago. I had read it before, but the time of this particular reading, I was emotionally lost, and open, and the insight that I am highly identified with thoughts hit me deeply.

      Since then, I’ve been able to release anxiety and the emotional symptoms of depression and see life very differently. The core of who I am remains steady, even as life happens.

      And just like you, I haven’t completely resolved the distance between awakening and the practical aspects of life. During this period of awakening, I’ve lost substantial money, I’ve been unemployed for an extended time, I’ve lost the usual sorts of motivation that people muster up to be successful, I’ve isolated myself in my many areas. And like you, I do feel closer to family.

      So does awakening bring about loss? I don’t think so. I think it does bring about a natural tendency to simplify. It brings about a tendency to question long-held assumptions. This can feel a little uncomfortable because everyone at large, and even our own conditioned selves, have certain expectations of us.

      Congratulations on quitting smoking! That’s big.

  12. Janice

    Thanks for your response. “The natural tendency to simplify” that actually is a clearer way to express the changes. My perfectionism and rushing around have slowed down incredibly.
    I don’t feel depressed or blue. Just sorta curious. Like where is this going?
    Thank you so much for the great writing you do here. They have been so helpful to me, for a long time. I love coming here and reading what everyone is up to.
    Love & Light,
    Janice

  13. shresh

    Thoughts expressed very effectively!!!!!!
    I have also gone through some sorts of happenings mentioned above.
    I think unhealthy physical and or mental upbringing in early years of life cause this invtroversive nature and unstable life. This gets enhanced and become more severe when one attains maturity accompanying financial and social uncomforts.
    In India this may be the important reason for unhealthy life of descendants of lower middle class and uneducated class of people. Depression and anxiety may also come in later stages of life due to various grounds.
    Only the one who goes to the depth of the root, unearths the real nature of human soul and understands this very nature of life can overcome this.

    But while moving towards to overcome this mental state I am now following wandering course of life. I do meditate since last a few months but unregularly, that heals the mind for a few hours. then again the feeling of uneasiness…
    I can’t strike the balance between this material and spiritual life. I’m now in my final year of professional course which I had begun as my dream of life. now feels no meaning in doing it. The guy who was topper in the school life has become dull due to lack of concentration.
    This has brought me to spiritual path and to reach at awareness state of mind.
    Now mind knows everything about the causes of distress and unbalanced life yet unable to remove it from the root.

    What may be the one answer for all these questions??????

    1. Kaushik Post author

      Hi Suresh,

      Thanks for your open comment.

      You say that the problem might be the physical and mental upbringing and financial and social conditions which are to blame, but I think it is everything. Or it is one thing. Which is fear. Fear affects the mind, and everything we see then is crooked, and it doesn’t matter if the circumstances are about a social class or social pressure. I think almost every one of the seven billion of us has anxiety. It just shows up differently.

      I think you are doing what is reasonable to do. You use your intution. Right now your course is wandering. You are trying to strick a balance between your material and spiritual life. That’s very reasonable.

      And you ask the most important question. What is that can fix it? What can make the fear disappear and help us heal form its effects?

      I don’t know for sure.

      I know that it is not about understanding or practice. It doesn’t matter what we undertand or practice or believe or do.

      What matters is whatever will eliminate the fear and heal us from its effects. I have some hope and some confirmation that the “looking at you” as John Sherman suggests may be it, but I can’t say that for certain. I’m trying it out.

      Kaushik

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