The delusion of fear in the mind

For two years or so now, the way I see it is that life is a journey from fear to love.

In most of us there is a delusion of fear in the mind. There is a belief, a feeling, that there is something wrong with life.

I don’t know how or when we pick this up or why it’s universal.

There does seem to be support for this idea in spirituality, philosophy, and literature–but really, in my view, the best way to see it is to observe its effects in your life.

Not much has changed externally in my life. I have work, relationships, friends, family, and interests. The part that’s changed is that life is becoming deeply satisfying. Sometimes a gratitude for being alive, thankfulness for this physical experience–as illusory as it is–comes up sponstaneously. There is more observing and less opinionating.

If this makes sense to you, that there is a delusion of fear in your mind, then it might also make sense that you cannot use your thoughts and emotions to see through the delusion. You must rely on something else. You must rely on you.

To people who ask, I recommend only techniques. Methods. Not lifestyle changes or beliefs or dogma and practices.

Learn to observe. Observing thoughts is a good place to start. Observe your thoughts, as a witness, non-judgementally. Step back and watch and soon thoughts will slow and then you can observe the gaps between thoughts.

Learn a release technique. The one I have here has worked for everyone who has actually tried it (that I know of). If you are serious about clarifying your mind, and you use the techniques I suggest, you will likely go through some rough patches. The release technique is a salve.

Look at you, the sense of you, the sense of existence. John Sherman describes this technique very clearly.


10 thoughts on “The delusion of fear in the mind

  1. Davidya

    Hi Kaushik!
    The Yoga Sutra indicates suffering has 5 causes but all come back to ignorance of our true nature. It explores them and then concludes:
    2:26 “Eliminating ignorance eliminates identification. That is release – singularity of awareness, Kaivalya (liberation)”

    It then goes on to describe samadhi and the 8 limbs to culture it. In other words – techniques.

    So it concurs with you completely. 😉

    Me too – it is discovering who you are that destroys fear.

    How or when we pick it up relates to the long cycles of time and our falling out of touch with our inner being/ the divine. The most distinctive shift of that was about 13,500 years ago. We’re on the up cycle now, restoring that connection again. 😉

    1. Kaushik Post author

      Hi Davidya,

      Good to hear from you! Interesting about the Yoga Sutra. Thanks for pointing out. And heartening to know we’re on the up cycle!


  2. Jen

    Calm man!! 🙂
    I’ve missed chatting with you my friend.
    “In most of us there is a delusion of fear in the mind. There is a belief, a feeling, that there is something wrong with life.I don’t know how or when we pick this up or why it’s universal.”

    I’ve kind of been ‘aware’ of your perspective on this for this long too, and your questions about it.

    I’m not ‘sure’ but I witnessed a tiny toddler experience ‘shame’ recently, and it’s something I’ve been aware of for awhile working more with indigenous cultures. The notion of ‘right and wrong’ when imposed on/over the ‘natural’ has devastating effects. It says ‘don’t be who you really are’ ‘don’t be with what ‘is’, be this confusing other thing.

    And it is one hell of a ‘mixed message’ – if you want to get along and survive in this world /society / family / environment – conform to something that you are not, or be shamed – held apart from your ‘supports’.

    This delightful, loving, open, curious, enthusiastic little human being had absolutely no way to balance who she really is – in all her gory/glory spontaneously and delightfully ‘being’, with being told not to ‘be’ that, for some concept that she didn’t understand. She melted into deep inconsolable sobs in the imbalance and the confusion. A ‘fear’ was likely ‘born’ right then and there. A ‘condition’ on love and on life.

    Do we know what it is we ask/do?

    hugs Jen

    1. Kaushik Post author

      Hi Jen! Good to hear from you here. I’ve been quiet on-line in the last few months–I suppose because I’ve wanted to enjoy the calm and creative and enjoyable energy after many years of frantice seeking dissipated.

      I think it is a delusion of fear, a little belief which says that there is something wrong, which then has consequences in the mind. It’s this bit of off-centeredness which causes a mental image of the self (ego), and attachment and identitication with mental abstraction. This makes sense to me and is consistent with my observation.

      It’s interesting what you said about how infants and toddlers pick up shame from the rest of us. The idea of patterns and energy movement is natural and I think we start recognizing these without much trouble, but the conceptual idea that a thing must be right or wrong is not natural and it’s very plausible that this causes the confusion that something is wrong and the confusion that I don’t have adequate facilities to deal with life.

      It’s interesting.


  3. Zman

    I was searching for some reviews on Sam Harris’s new book and came across your recent article. Good insight on it. As I was looking over your other entries this one really struck me. I was having a discussion recently with a friend of mine about fear. We were pondering its roots and its precedence. One thought came to mind, could fear be rooted in selfishness? Just wondering if you have some thoughts on this? Thank you for a thought provoking article.

    1. Kaushik Post author

      Hi Zman,

      I don’t really know where fear is rooted. Perhaps it is the fear of separation–the thinking that we are separate and alone and untethered. Perhaps ego and fear the same thing–identification with conditioned mental patterns. Perhaps fear is the underlying thought that “there is something wrong with life.” Maybe it is from the trauma of birth, waking up suddenly to independent being. Perhaps fear is the ego’s fear of being seen and annihalated. Fear of death, fear of life.

      I don’t know.

      In my view, the more important thing has been to identify and see that here is fear, and work on eliminating it. I think John Sherman’s looking technique does a good job of that.

      Thanks Zman for engaging.


    2. Davidya

      Hi Kaushik, Zman
      I would suggest it’s not quite so simple as “a fear”. Rather there are types of fear and what might be called layers of it. You touch on that Kaushik. For example, the natural fear response from danger and the bodily fear of injury. There is the fear of death some have. There is the ego’s fear of being seen that’s not usually conscious until around waking. And there is the deeper, ancient fear born of separation from the divine that falls away with Unity and ends all division. Adyashanti called seeing the last the BBQ.

      But yes, in every case, it is acknowledging the experience and allowing it to arise and resolve. All emotions are there as signals. Once the signal is heard, it will resolve and complete. But if we resist it, it will continue, incomplete.

      1. Kaushik Post author

        That’s good. Zman and I are probably both referring to the last fear, the fear of separation. John Sherman’s looking technique has worked well for me. It has eliminated fear but all of it. And perhaps what is left is the fear of separation. The only thing I know to do is, I think what Davidya is saying, to allow and observe.

  4. Zman

    I agree with recognizing the reality of fear and tackling the process of its elimination. I believe the simplest solutions to be most effective and puns usually hold truths in such ventures. Hence “The root of the problem” holds simple wisdom to often follow. Therefore when we seek origin we may discover our own weakness and opportunity for redirection in these misguided failings.

    1. Kaushik Post author

      You’re right of course. If you can find the source of fear, well, that would be it. I have not. It hasn’t so far been necessary in my process. Though I agree with you. If the source of fear is to be found, well, that would be the whole thing.

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