For two years or so now, the way I see it is that life is a journey from fear to love.
In most of us there is a delusion of fear in the mind. There is a belief, a feeling, that there is something wrong with life.
I don’t know how or when we pick this up or why it’s universal.
There does seem to be support for this idea in spirituality, philosophy, and literature–but really, in my view, the best way to see it is to observe its effects in your life.
Not much has changed externally in my life. I have work, relationships, friends, family, and interests. The part that’s changed is that life is becoming deeply satisfying. Sometimes a gratitude for being alive, thankfulness for this physical experience–as illusory as it is–comes up sponstaneously. There is more observing and less opinionating.
If this makes sense to you, that there is a delusion of fear in your mind, then it might also make sense that you cannot use your thoughts and emotions to see through the delusion. You must rely on something else. You must rely on you.
To people who ask, I recommend only techniques. Methods. Not lifestyle changes or beliefs or dogma and practices.
Learn to observe. Observing thoughts is a good place to start. Observe your thoughts, as a witness, non-judgementally. Step back and watch and soon thoughts will slow and then you can observe the gaps between thoughts.
Learn a release technique. The one I have here has worked for everyone who has actually tried it (that I know of). If you are serious about clarifying your mind, and you use the techniques I suggest, you will likely go through some rough patches. The release technique is a salve.
Look at you, the sense of you, the sense of existence. John Sherman describes this technique very clearly.