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Dark Night of the Soul
Spiritual awakening doesn’t happen because you master some spiritual technique. There are lots of skillful meditators who are not awake. Awakening happens when you stop bullshitting yourself into continual nonawakening. It’s very easy to use disciplines to avoid reality rather than to encounter it. A true spirituality will have you continually facing your illusions and all the ways you avoid reality. Spiritual practice may be an important means of confronting yourself, or it may be a means of avoiding yourself; it all depends on your attitude and intention. -Adyashanti
Three years ago I had a shift of consciousness. It was not a sudden opening and it didn’t really feel like a big deal at that time. All that really happened is that I read Eckhart Tolle’s Power of Now, and it made complete sense to me, whereas on previous readings it had not.
With the shift, I started exploring, mostly through reading. I went through a period of high-energy and ecstasy. Life was eventful, fun and easy. Just to be and breathe was delicious. Decisions came to me pre-made. Life was living itself, experiencing, in peaceful flow. I traveled. I wrote. I was engaged with family and friends and living.
I was also dealing with feelings of deep longing for someone. This was a little bizarre, because I had ended the relationship two years before. I was surprised that there were feelings that I had not been conscious of, and was really surprised at the intensity of the feelings.
After about a year and half, life slowed down. The ecstasy waned. Agony waxed.
The feelings of longing and what I had thought was unrequited love continued, and even intensified, to the point where I sometimes felt it was unhealthily obsessive.
There was anxiety, and this was a shocking disappointment. How could I feel anxiety, when I thought I had awakened out of depression and anxiety and the rest of the mess?
I have written about releasing anxiety, and releasing compulsive thoughts, and how to reconcile the feelings of longing.
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Even with this releasing though, what remained was not fun. For a long period I felt apathetic and detached and alone. There was no zest to life.
This depression is different from clinical depression. In depressive episodes in the past, I had felt a deep sense of nihilistic futility and unhappiness. This spiritual depression was not unhappy or nihilistic. It was apathetic and inactive and indecisive.
I’ve heard this described as spiritual depression or the “dark night of the soul.”
Why agony
Consciousness is more conscious but embodied patterns continue.
The mind loves to run through its grooves of conditioning. My conditioning includes patterns of depression and withdrawal. For me the dark night shows up as ennui. It may be different for you. Old patterns die hard.
The agony of awakening is often exacerbated by expectation. We have certain ideas of awakening, usually very romantic ones. We’ve heard about oneness and bliss. The ego wants in on this, and it creates ideas of an enlightened future where we’ll be super-spiritual, super-effective, super-happy—essentially super-human.
So when old-habits re-emerge, it’s quite a let-down.
I think many people are even reluctant to talk about it, since they have set the expectation in themselves and others that they had permanently shifted to some sort of a blissed-out dimension.
We may feel that we are not fitting in. We feel inadequate and alienated. We’re in the middle stages somewhere with this awakening thing, and we may feel that there are people who seem be able to completely embrace awakening. Their lives, seemingly, are flowing and easy and directed, and yet here we are, somewhat opened up, and yet dragging the heavy burdens of old tendencies, unable to let go.
And the old drivers are no longer helpful. In the past, we may have been able to “power through”, by setting goals, and by positive thinking, and with self-discipline and effort. We now have the intuition that this sort of self-forcing cannot be sustained.
Friends and family may be concerned, and may try to help, but at this point we realize that nobody can really help us. It has to all come from inside.
We may find that our concepts are no longer of much help. We’ve probably at this stage left behind the need to intellectually dissect and understand. We find though that even spiritual concepts are of no help. We read about karma and compassion and acceptance and letting go, and yet these concepts no longer help in any real way. There is a continual checking back—what is it that I don’t know, what is it that I’m not doing, what is it that I’m doing wrong? Where is the damned flow that people love to talk about? Where is the freaking joy and peace that everyone vehemently shouts about?
And these times seem never-ending. Will I really see the light? Is there really a light to see? Or is this all some complicated play of the emperor’s clothes, illusions within illusions within illusions?
We can’t even go back to our old pretend-lives. We can’t muster up the old pretenses and drivers and make ourselves a conventional life in the sleepy auto-pilot mode, giving only bare attention to what’s going on inside us. Once there has been a willingness to see, there is no turning back.
Nothing seems to help. Certainly no thought or emotion or belief can help us for long. We don’t want to pretend any more. We don’t want the temporary solutions of discipline and re-arranging beliefs. Where do we turn? What do we do?
What to do
Well, I don’t have an earth-shattering answer.
This was not a satisfying article to write. I have presented a case for spiritual depression. I don’t know that everyone who is awakening goes through it, but there are enough references out there to suggest that many of us do.
Adyashanti talks about it here. What was striking to me here was the voice of the questioner. Her despair and uncertainty come right through.
Whatever agony is showing up in us has always existed in us. It’s nothing new. It’s showing up now, a little differently and more acutely, because we are waking up. At some point, we recognize this, and we stop resisting. At some point, we realize that the only problem there ever is, is resistance.
And this may be it. The purpose of these agonizing states may be the opportunity to surrender. The answer may be in the very problem. The answer is in the questions we ask ourselves: where do we turn, what do we do.
It is not what we do. It is what we stop doing. We stop resisting.
In the next few articles I will consider this further.
Have you experienced this ebb and flow? What do you do about it?
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Hi Kaushik. Happy 2010!
Earlier today I read an article by Jeannie Zandi titled “Dark Night of the Soul.”
I also read something about conditioning, which said that our conditioning is nothing more than acquired learning, and that we learn mostly through repetition, and this repetition creates neural pathways in our brains that are as visible as grooves on vinyl. One of those pathways gets labeled ‘Sh*t Happens and it Hurts!’
But that’s the jargon of the brain. If we can get totally behind the brain and see it firing away like a dutiful computer, sometimes opening the SHaH folder, we can see a little me at work, doing what it’s always done, what it was taught to do, which was to be a dutiful child. That’s why you say ‘Old patterns die hard’, b/c those patterns are literally etched into our brains by conditioning. And even if opening that SH file is unavoidable and ineluctable, we can still maintain a vantage point behind the brain and view it as just some stuff happening to the diligent student in us. That poor kid needs a break!
I think ‘the opportunity to surrender’ would make a nice post title. I enjoyed this one very much and look forward to sharing this exciting new year with you.
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Hi Brenda,
Yes, I’ve used the terminology of grooves. The mind, as you point out, is a fast habit computer. And with awakening, the ego rebels and uses our own thoughts and grooves to remain in control. We can do the work of releasing, and this helps. We can see that these are grooves, and the emotions are body sensations, and we let go. What can make SH files tough is we can’t always see them. They show up as low-energy or confusion or detachment. I like what you say, to maintain a vantage point in awareness, and watch, and take the opportunity to surrender.
Happy 2010 to you as well my friend!
Peace,
k
You speak my heart, Kaushik. But I’m afraid I have nothing to add or contribute. I feel so drained. From where I’m at now… it’s like a circus show that’s falling apart and I’ve no desire to contain it …. and still there are old habits playing themselves out. I ask myself: have I not been here before? But it’s still going on and on… and every time I think the show is almost over, it surprises me again and comes back even stronger. At times I find it funny to watch the mind habits and the tricks… not even really making sense or satisfying to the mind itself lately… its like a broken record that’s getting louder that you can’t make out the words anymore… yet the resistance still shows itself… and at times it feels like the ego is laughing at me… and my drained Self is watching but tired, not amused anymore… waiting to get some rest before the next show.
My only comfort is the stillness inside.
OOOOHHHHH do I understand this. As a matter of fact, I’m working through a little of this myself. It’s hard, especially when you’ve come so far. I have accepted this as a fact of life, and of growing…and I realize, with every ’setback’ I come out a little stronger in the end. That’s not to say that I don’t wish there was a little magic “mantra” to knock me out of it…..
Dawn´s last blog ..My Resolution~Learn to Let Love In
Hi Masi,
Yes, exactly. The “disturbing” states keep coming back until they are all released and we can abide in Awareness. I think it’s very common.
I don’t know that there are any definitive answers. It can help to know we are not alone in this. The thoughts that come up when we’re in these states are: “What’s wrong with me? Why does this keep happening to me when it seems other people go through this much more smoothly? This will always keep happening to me.” Doubts come up.
We know we should just let it be and watch and release. This isn’t always easy to do because these states are highly inconvenient. We have the business of life to attend to. Often we go through these states very quietly, but if we do seek help we may find that society and friends and family don’t really understand this.
There are some practical things we can do, such as simplify our lives. We can decide not to make any big changes in our lives at these times. Exercise and taking good care of the body can help, but of course this too can be difficult in these states.
We can watch these states with same awareness that we use to watch positive states. We can continue to release. In the end, it is about dropping all resistance–surrendering. We can even invite these states. By definition, inviting happens if there is no resistance to them.
Take care my friend,
k
Hi Dawn,
Yes, we do come out stronger. I know what you mean, we wish for a quick fix. It seems to come down to the dropping of resistance, remaining in awareness, surrendering to it…
Thanks for you thoughts! I hope you are well.
Peace,
k
I got enlightenment by watching a movie. This movie awakened me by showing me that true life was not “out” there or over the rainbow. God was and is always with me at all times when I simply quit trying to find it. That I never had to go on any journey to find it. It was a journey without distance. Only after getting hit on the head did I begin to wake up. But the key was when I saw that the little man behind the curtain (organized religion) was just that- a little man.
The movie that woke me up. THE WIZARD OF OZ, LOL.
don
peace out
spiritnewsdaily.com
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Hi Don,
You’ve hit it. Seeking is an obstacle to the clear seeing that we already have it. It’s the dog chasing its tail. For many of us, we have to chase our tails till we’re exhausted and then we can allow.
Thanks for visiting and commenting!
Peace,
k
Thank you for sharing this post with us Kaushik. I especially could resonate with this part – “The agony of awakening is often exacerbated by expectation”
I don’t remember which of the enlightened masters said it but he said :”It is Ego that wants to get rid of the Ego”. I think it goes perfectly with what you described.
Lana – DreamFollowers Blog´s last blog ..My 2010 Goals and Two Awesome Techniques I Used to Set Them
Hi Lana,
Great quotation. Yes, it seems in the end that all the angst and thrashing about is to simply help us get past all of it.
Thanks for visiting and your insightful comment!
Peace,
k
Hey Kaushik,
At first I was wondering where you were going with this post and then I realised exactly where you were coming from.
Allow me to share something I’ve learned. The times I’m down, are the times I’m grateful for the most, they allow me to appreciate the good times. Relativity has a purpose and it’s purpose is contrast so we can appreciate. People can fight and resist the bad times but ultimately they’re serving a purpose for us that.
So when I feel down, I just go with it, it happens and it’s part of life, we’re not perfect and far from it. I believe the guru’s have those moment too, they just don’t show their discomfort, they’re detached from those feelings because they recognise deeply that it’s part of the great contrasting circle of life.
Amit Sodha – The Power Of Choice´s last blog ..Why It’s Pointless Going To University To Get A Degree
Hi Amit,
Yes, even as awakening deepens, and consciousness becomes more and more consciousness, the down times can continue, and sometimes they can get intense. The trick is, as you say, to drop resistance. Then we can learn lessons of self-acceptance. Of course, at the down times, these are not the easiest things to do, and that’s the lesson.
Thanks for visiting and your insightful thoughts!
Peace,
k
Hi Kaushik,
My dark night of the soul occurred when I was 25. I remember that night as if it were yesterday. It was sheer and utter hell. I was scared and empty and had no clue what this all meant. However, it was the best thing that ever happened to me because it began a journey of facing up to my junk and peeling back all the crap that I had layered on top of myself for no good reason. I had a lot of issues to work through but I kept at it.
Yes, there were moments of agony but with each new realization, the agony lessened. In my experience, I think a lot of it depends on the willingness of the person to endure the dark night of the soul. People want enlightenment without the work and it just does not work that way.
In order to be awakened, you have to realize that everything that you were taught to believe in is not real. Many people like to be confined to what they know and the moment you have awareness, it just breaks all those perceptions. Not everyone is capable of handling that truth. I have seen people claim to be spiritual and yet be so unawakened. I have seen people who have no spiritual knowledge and yet be so intuned. There is no set method….thankfully!
Nadia – Happy Lotus´s last blog ..Decisions, Decisions, Decisions
Hey Kaushik
Everyone gets frustrated like that from time to time. The fact that you were able to open and honestly expose what’s going inside of you was already a sign that your ego is falling apart. As you know the ego likes to attach itself to concepts and ideas – that’s the way it survives. “Ego”, “patterns”, “dark night of the soul” are nothing but mind stuff. They don’t exist per se, they are just pointers that were born out of what we are – silence. The silence of which awareness is made is the ooooonly thing that matters! Bet you’ve read this a thousand times before eheh but you know, sometimes it’s all about the timing
In case you haven’t already, take a look at the book “The Bost Direct Means To Eternal Bliss” by Michael Langford. It’s great 
Love,
J.
I meant “Most Direct Means To Eternal Bliss”
sorry about that.
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Hi Nadia,
It sounds like your dark night happened in a short, intense burst. Some people report these intense experiences, and others go through more extended ones, and some say they go through multiple experiences.
I think that everyone is capable of handling the truth, because underneath it all, that’s what’s real. Some may go through intense experiences, some may go through multiple, extended, milder ones. As you point out when there is willingness, we can allow, and the agony lessens, at some point we are not afraid of whatever we experience. And this may be the lesson, because it is this falling away of resistance that makes the turn-around.
There is no set method, indeed. There are so many varying experiences.
Yes, being spiritual doesn’t always help–as Adyashanti says, he doesn’t quite understand how spirituality got mixed up with awakening. It’s not spiritual knowledge and it’s not intellectual understanding and it’s not any sort of practice–and yet these are the things some of us need to get ready.
Great insights, Nadia. I hope you are well!
Peace,
k
Hi Joao,
I have read Michael Langford’s book. It’s available on line and the link is here. It’s pretty good–has a good description of how the ego works.
You’re right, ultimately all these are concepts. The ego, stuck patterns, dark night and so on, are deeper and deeper concepts, and as we release and be aware, these deeper concepts surface. We can release these as we learn to allow and accept and see that this is just more mind-stuff.
You’re absolutely right, that timing is crucial. We can learn something at one point and it might not make sense, and at another time, it is crystal clear. Awakening is when we stop bullshitting ourselves, and it’s a process.
I completely understand what you were getting to in the comment, that there awareness, and everything else is mind illusions.
Thanks for the great insights and thanks for visiting.
Peace,
k
The Most Rapid and Direct Means to Eternal Bliss
Hi Kaushik,
Is this what you’re going through now or is it history?
I totally agree with you – as the journey deepens, the ego’s concepts become much deeper, revolving around the self, our purpose, doubting our path, whereas before our concepts were much simpler (work hard, smile more often, impress the boss etc.)
It’s perhaps this doubt combined with the uncertainty of shifting into new territory that leads to stagnation and the apathy that you describe…at least that’s how I believe it is in me, at least.
The trick is to realize that these new doubts are just more attempts by the ego, and to really, truly, let go.
Hi Andrew,
Yes, that is indeed the trick to let go. We can take some comfort in knowing that we not alone in this, and that “this too shall pass,” and that these down times indicate that we are indeed letting go and seeing through the ego. It’s just more mindstuff, maybe deeper mindstuff, but nevertheless just mindstuff to let go.
Great insight, thanks!
I hope you are well!
Peace,
k
Hi Kaushik
You are delightfully human, I would say when I read this:
“So when old-habits re-emerge, it’s quite a let-down.
We’re in the middle stages somewhere with this awakening thing, and we may feel that there are people who seem be able to completely embrace awakening. Their lives, seemingly, are flowing and easy and directed, and yet here we are, somewhat opened up, and yet dragging the heavy burdens of old tendencies, unable to let go.”
AND at those times I need a hug and warmth and just comforting without indulging myself further in that feeling.
You can either dramatize this and feed the pain body or you can accept it and see it for what it is, a temporary set back because the old status quo is still the water we swim in.
The trick is not to get too upset and feel as a failure, again that is just the mind and ego and little voice playing up.
For me I replace that mind chatter by doing physical things that need my attention and indulge myself in comforting myself and making sure I hold on to the knowledge that all this will pass.
Good point to bring up.
Love Wilma .
Wilma Ham´s last blog ..Only acceptance has you do things differently.
Hi Wilma,
Yes, beautifully wise words. We simply allow, let it be, and watch. And the know that this too shall pass.
Thanks, wonderful insight.
I hope you’re well!
Peace,
k
Kaushik, as usual, your writing gets deeper and more meaningful to me as time wears on. I loved this post, even though (as you said) it was hard in some ways — to read and to write.
I had a dark night of the soul that lasted very similarly to how you described yours from the middle of 2008 to the beginning of 2009. Almost a year. I love how you said that the old tendencies that surfaced (for me, an addiction) are always there; they’re just looking for cracks in our armor and a chance to surface and grab some sun. Certainly that was the case for me. I wasn’t clinically depressed, but I was definitely spiritually depressed. And the greatest thing is, even though it’s subsided for now, I know it can come back at any time. Probably when I’m feeling the most cocky and self-assured and JOYFUL! Those dark nights of the soul are tricky like that, but oh so necessary. Ennui is such a great way to describe it. I wasn’t self-loathing and super down all the time, but I lacked the same zeal for life I was used to having. And there were times when I dipped so low I scared myself… But never as low as before I landed on this spiritual path to begin with nine years ago.
I can’t wait for your next post.
Love to you, my friend.
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Hi Megan,
Our experiences are very similar. Suffering brought me to a path of awakening, and there have been periods of bliss and periods of ennui. You’re right, it doesn’t have the qualities of self-loathing or futility that clinical depression has. And that’s a great point, that there are times of fear. But through it all, when courage is needed, it shows up.
Thanks so much for openly sharing.
And thanks for the kind words!
I hope you are well JoyGirl.
with love, k
Oh Kaushik, that quote and video by Adyashanti and the questioner are so…spot on…as is everything you have written, so honest and resonant. For a lot of reasons, I don’t write about my own personal journey online, but yes, I recognize this, in my own way. And I don’t have any answers either – to offer some would be to fall into another trap, as you are already walking the walk with such integrity, what could anyone possibly add at this point? I do love your point about these points of crises being a new opportunity to surrender, and for myself this is how at this time I have come to view the process – a constant spiral through joy, surfacing of new resistance, dark night, new surrender, new joy, and then again. Can I love that process, every moment of it, even in the dark parts of the spiral? That is how I think these days, for what it’s worth….Love, Lisa
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Kaushik, thanks for sharing this. I remember when I broke up with my first girlfriend, I became also depressed like you. I understood what what the pain it felt like. Even doing normal tasks that I loved to do seem to be difficult. And the more I thought about it, the more miserable I became.
Two years went by, and still I had thoughts about her. It became unhealthy. One day I realized that I was trying to control my past. I was digging more and more into an illusion that couldn’t be controlled.
When you go through so much pain, one day you wake up and you have a moment where you don’t think about anything. You just feel. That moment is a moment of peace. It is what Eckhard Tolle talks about in the Power of Now. To get over my emotional pain such as anxiety or sadness, I become more adept at letting go.
Currently, I’m more serene when it comes to that past relationship we had together. I met somebody else who appreciates, loves, respects me for who I am. I wouldn’t have done so if I was still living in the past.
Hi Lisa,
What a wonderful comment! We have to allow and see that there is no actual problem, just resistance. And as you point out, loving the process, inviting it, is by definition dropping all resistance to it. It’s a great insight!
Thanks for visiting and thanks very much for the kind words!
I hope you are well!
Peace,
k
Hi Hulbert,
Thanks for openly sharing. I think you’re spot on. It is all about letting go, but sometimes we are not able to quite understand what it is that we have to let go of. we simply have to allow, even invite, and love the process. “…one day you wake up and you have a moment where you don’t think…” That’s it!
Thanks for visiting and sharing. I hope you are well!
Peace,
k
“It is not what we do. It is what we stop doing. We stop resisting”
Powerful words Kaushik. Very meaningful indeed. It is very coincidental that it is the second time today that I came across the same theme I am currently writing a post about – non-resistance.
We keep on tripping ourselves over by trying to stay in control and resisting the natural ebb and flow of things. It is like when you are meditating and a part of you keeps on checking whether you are doing right or not instead of flowing with the current.
Good honest point about being let down by our expectations of awakening.
Yes we all have a romantic idea about awakening and our ego stills try to poke its finger in it. I think that this disappointment comes from our skewed sense of change and achievement. We always think that change is round the corner and we get deflated if we find out that it is farther away than that. We keep on forgetting that what is important is not the destination but the journey itself.
Once we let go of this sense of achievement, we awake a step further but awakening is a gradual never ending process. There is no graduation day. Ever.
Hi Gilbert,
Yes, your words resonate. It always comes down to resistance. We hear a lot about acceptance and forgiveness and so on–and these are important paths, but it’s difficult to understand them by accumulating concepts. My understanding came with the instinctive recognition that acceptance is something we stop doing.
We simply have to allow the ebb and flow. Sometimes this feels exhausting, and wisdom is in the exhaustion. With exhaustion, we stop resisting.
No graduation day, indeed!
Thanks for visiting and commenting, and thanks for great insights!
peace,
k
Hi Kaushik,
This post really spoke to me. I can relate exactly to how you describe spiritual depression. I’m generally joyful and positive and full of energy, but still, these episodes continue to occur for a day or a few days here and there. I’ve become better at dealing with them. For one, I observe them now instead of falling for them. I recognize that I’m in a spiritual slump and I don’t take it too seriously because I know it is temporary. And then I try to do the things I know will work to pull me through–time to contemplate, time to “play,” and a day or night out with my husband or friends. For me, these slumps are when I need to connect to other people more than anything. It’s the best antidote!
I am excited to read your next article. This is a great topic! Jodi
Jodi at Joy Discovered´s last blog ..Shake Things Up!
Hi Jodi,
Yes, this seems to be common experience. After an insight, we still have these periods of spiritual depression. It is the resistance of the ego; it is continue clinging to concepts, and in the end, it is not real. We can see this, as you point out, with observing nd allowing. It’s wonderful to not take them seriously, not believe the story of it.
Great advice Jodi, sometimes we can use these slumps to re-connect.
I hope you’re doing well!
Peace,
k
Kaushik,
Beautiful. Got reference to your blog through Blog Carnival. Will visit more often. This journey we are on has its peaks and valleys – we aim to be sthitapragna. Thank you for sharing.
basabi
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Namaste Basabi,
Thanks for visiting and I look forward to your future visits and comments. I had to look up sthitaprajna. It is Krishna’s reference to a stable-wisdom in the Bhagvad Gita, Ch. 2:
54. What, O Krishna, is the description of him who has steady wisdom and is merged in the state of Sthitaprajna? How does one of steady wisdom speak? How does he sit? How does he walk?
55. When a man completely casts off, O Arjuna, all the desires of the mind and is satisfied in the Self by the Self, then is he said to be one of steady wisdom!
56. He whose mind is not shaken by adversity, who does not hanker after pleasures, and who is free from attachment, fear and anger, is called a sage of steady wisdom.
57. He who is everywhere without attachment, on meeting with anything good or bad, who neither rejoices nor hates, his wisdom is fixed.
58. When, like the tortoise which withdraws its limbs on all sides, he withdraws his senses from the sense-objects, then his wisdom becomes steady.
59. The objects of the senses turn away from the abstinent man, leaving the longing (behind); but his longing also turns away on seeing the Supreme.
60. The turbulent senses, O Arjuna, do violently carry away the mind of a wise man though he be striving (to control them)!
61. Having restrained them all he should sit steadfast, intent on Me; his wisdom is steady whose senses are under control.
62. When a man thinks of the objects, attachment to them arises; from attachment desire is born; from desire anger arises.
Thanks again.
k
I like the last line of the Adyashanti clip “beware of how much suffering you take from someone because you might be taking away their key to freedom.” That’s been a hard thing for me to accept. I love people; I want to help; I see “the way.” I build my own suffering with that way of thinking; its ego. There is no lasting “cure” for suffering outside of awareness and self love, especially when pain is self-inflicted. We each have to power to break our own hearts, you know? And then, we have the power to kiss and make-up with our lower/higher Self. Buy ourselves flowers. Whatever. Let the lifelong romance continue.
Sarah´s last blog ..The Surfers
Hi Sarah,
Your expression is beautiful.
Yes, we add to our own suffering by resisting. We each certainly have the power, which is simply a moment to moment choice. We rest in Awareness, learn to release, and love ourselves enough. Yes, “kiss and make-up.”
love and peace,
k