Acceptance is not something we do; it is something we stop doing

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We sometimes have trouble understanding concepts like awareness, release, acceptance, forgiveness, gratitude, compassion, non-attachment, surrender and so on. I suppose these can be called ‘spiritual’ concepts but ‘spirituality’ is word that gets caught in my throat. It really doesn’t want to come out cleanly. It’s like God—it’s so filled up with assumptions that it’s a dead end.

The trouble is of course that we try to understand these as concepts. If we learn to let go, we realize a strange revelation that all of this seemingly-complicated stuff is really all about letting go.

Acceptance

As a concept, we think acceptance is tolerance or resignation or passivity. So the question that come up is how can I accept something I don’t like? If someone is beating me over the head should I accept that? If you tolerate someone beating you over the head–that is not acceptance. That is insanity.

Acceptance is not something we do. It is something we stop doing.

Acceptance happens when we let go of the inner resistance to what is happening anyway.

Notice that the ego always wants to resist. The ego thinks that by resisting it can muster up motivation and energy to change something. The ego feels if it does not resist, then things will never change.

Acceptance is simply letting go of the mind’s lurching and resisting to what is happening anyway and then we find that the energy we put into resisting is available for easy action, if that’s what we want to do.

Forgiveness

This is an important path for many. Forgiveness in my experience happens when the need to forgive or be forgiven is let go of. When we realize that everyone—everyone—does the best they possibly can under the circumstances of conditioning, there is no need to forgive or be forgiven. Forgiveness is the letting go of the need to forgive.

Gratitude

Gratitude is quite fashionable these days, made into a designer spiritual concept around the Law of Attraction, something like “ok I’m grateful already, now give me more.”  It’s reminiscent of the ancients who tossed virgins into volcanoes to show gratitude to harvest gods. That’s rather wasteful of virgins.

When we can let go of all the rubbish, what remains is the easy love of life, and that is gratitude.

Non-attachment

This is a beautiful Buddhist concept which brings up visceral resistance. What do you mean let go of attachment? Attachment is the very thing that I love, it is love.

Non-attachment is not the purposeful suppression of compassion or love or sex or music or anything else that makes up living. It is simply a detachment from the drama of the ego. It is the easy knowing that everything is simply a point of view in awareness, and when we are awareness, and not wrapped up in any particular pattern in awareness, we can see that everything is equal.

Compassion

Love-joy-peace-compassion is not easy to describe because it’s not a thought or an emotion. It’s just being. We could say it is our most basic state  when the rubbish is let go of. Rumi said it best when he said compassion is as the Sun loves the Earth. There is no particular expectation or direction, and yet compassion happens.

Awareness

When we can let go of the attachment to thinking, we can see the whole. This is Awareness.

As we let go of our attachment to thought and beliefs, more and more we experience warmth, a creative outlook, compassion, and ease. We can call this wisdom or intuition. It is a broadening of perspective, by which we can easily see that all points of view are contained in the whole. It is an intelligence which is free of beliefs and time and the stale structures of conditioning. And we find, with some surprise, that it is much easier to float in Awareness than to be caught in the thinking mind.

It is letting go of the attachment to thinking to see the whole.

Release

In the beginning it may take some practice and effort to release, but we soon see that letting go is not something we do; instead it is something we stop doing. We stop the madness of holding on. Most of us are not able to see this right away so a practice can help us be still enough to remember, and when we remember, it is no longer a practice.

Effort and Practice

When you read about personal development or spirituality these days there is often advice given on the virtues of seriousness. We must be serious, we must want success, we must be courageous, passionate, purposeful, disciplined, strong, smart. We must learn and understand, we must persevere, we must not procrastinate, and we must work hard.

If your instinct has told you that the answer is not in these virtuous words, that’s immensely good news.

Awakening does not ask us to create and re-arrange beliefs so we can continue to run around in mad circles.

Awakening asks only for self-acceptance. If you feel beaten down, mediocre, ineffective, depressed, anxious, failed, miserable, tired of the cycles of madness and struggle, welcome, because you are ready-people. All you have to do is realize that whatever you have become is a perfect adaptation to what’s happened in your inner world. It could not be any other way. There is nobody and nothing to blame, inside or outside. Accept. And then the play of awareness and release begins.

I talk about the practice of Awareness and Release here. These practices, like any other practice, can feel like effort in the beginning. At some point we understand what it means to let go of effort, and we let go of effort, and we let go of practice, and this is gloriously freeing. Then it is just effortless noticing, and perhaps the event or enlightenment happens, or it doesn’t happen, but it doesn’t matter, because this flow of awakening deepens on its own, and all that we struggled with before–all the seeking and clinging and chasing and learning and explaining–are seen as simply points of view in awareness, one no more or no less equal to the rest. It’s just Awareness, and everything else, including this mind and body, are points of view in Awareness.

What to do

There are many practices to help us get started. The ones that I like are ones that are easy to integrate into daily living and do not require jumping through the hoops of learning and memorizing concepts or sitting down in a lotus position at prescribed times for a prescribed amount of time.

“Observing thought” is a one such practice. Simply be a passive witness to your thoughts. Watch the voice in the head. Don’t analyze or interpret or interfere. Simply watch, and the gaps of no-thought will become apparent and expand.

Many of us come awakening when we are miserable, and so for this I suggest a release practice, like this one.

Everyone’s journey is unique and meanders in the way it will. One thing that I’ve found very helpful is to develop a gentle inquisitiveness, a gentle honesty.

45 thoughts on “Acceptance is not something we do; it is something we stop doing

  1. Andrew

    Nice post. One question though…If Acceptance, Awareness, Releasing ETC are all something that we STOP doing, then how do we practice cultivating it? I.e. Some Buddhists like Matthieu Ricard claim that happiness is a skill that we must work on and cultivate over time

    Or is it simply that we have to learn to stop fighting so hard?

    Thanks

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    1. Kaushik Post author

      Hi Andrew,

      You’ve asked a wonderful question. There are “non-dualists” who say we shouldn’t cultivate practice. And there are others who say we have to be serious and we have to want peace like a drowning man wants air and we must practice to get it.

      It’s confusing, because as you say if we don’t practice at all, how will there be any movement?

      If right here and right now you see the futility of practice, then you don’t have to practice. If you see that everything, including practice, is just a point of view in Awareness, you don’t need to cultivate anything. But most of us are not able to have that insight right away.

      And so we practice, until we see that it is really about letting go, and then we can let go, and we can let go of practice itself, and just rest in Awareness.

      I hope this helps.

      Peace,
      k

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    1. Kaushik Post author

      Hi Eduard,

      You’re right, for many people acceptance is difficult because the conditioning to be perfect and right.

      Yes, exactly, very well said, acceptance feels like a very freeing release!

      k

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  2. Nadia - Happy Lotus

    Hi Kaushik,

    One of the best things I ever learned in my journey was to just let go. It was scary at first but I knew in my heart that it was the best thing to do. With time, it became so much easier and now it is part of me. Of course, there are moments when my ego will scream for attention but I have learned to hear it out. Sometimes I pay more attention to it than I should but eventually I let it all go. Nothing is more freeing than just being.

    Hope all is well, my friend.

    With palms together…Namaste!
    .-= Nadia – Happy Lotus´s last blog ..When in Doubt: To Be Like John or Jesus? Part Two =-.

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    1. Kaushik Post author

      Hi Nadia,

      That’s an excellent point to make, that letting go can feel a little scary sometimes. The ego finds security in stuck patterns, and we let go beliefs and patterns, we are letting go of the familiar. As Krishnamurti said, it’s freedom from the known. Thanks for the great insight.

      I am very well, and I hope you are too!

      Namaste my friend,
      k

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  3. Brenda (betaphi)

    “If your instinct has told you that the answer is not in these virtuous words, that’s immensely good news.”

    My instinct tells me that you’ve got it so right. Some things do require effort and practice, but those things are mostly outside ourselves. Being Content should be simple and easy, not an elaborate quest. The hardest part is accepting just how simple it is. We spend so much of our lives being told by ego and others what we ‘must’ and ‘must not’ do that it can feel odd at first to live without imperatives, but that is what it takes. “When we can let go of all the rubbish, what remains is the easy love of life.”

    I’m loving life, Kaushik! :)

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    1. Kaushik Post author

      Hi Brenda,

      You’ve said is so well. And there really is nothing wrong with all the chasing, but as you put it so well, being content and intuitive and flowing is not an elaborate quest, it’s just being. Natural and easy!

      “I’m loving life, Kaushik!”

      So wonderful to hear!

      Namaste my friend,
      k

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  4. Wilma Ham

    Oh Kaushik, I simply love your honesty and practicality.
    It is the ego who wants to create problems and then it proudly proclaims how clever it is when it thinks it is solving them. Who else in their right mind would agree with all these weird hoops we have to go through in life.
    Observing like you do a child is all the attention the ego deserves, the rest is just wasted energy better spend on doing life.
    Your gentle honesty resonates.
    .-= Wilma Ham´s last blog ..Don’t let change in your circumstances fool you. =-.

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    1. Kaushik Post author

      Wilma,

      Yes, yes, observing the ego like you do a child! That’s exactly it, very well said.

      Thanks for the wonderful insight, and thanks for doing life!

      Peace,
      k

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  5. Tricia

    Dear K.

    You have prepared a banquet of soul food ~ grazie!

    My reading ended when I finished reading “FORGIVENESS” ~ because of an
    AHA! moment.

    IF we offer forgiveness that means we first had to JUDGE.
    Wrong thought! Yes? Yes!

    So instead of eating the elephant all in one bite ~ I think I will breathe this information
    in deeply.

    IN JOY and Gratitude
    Tricia

    Bow to Teacher
    Namaste’

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    1. Kaushik Post author

      Hi Tricia,

      Yes, that’s it exactly. All there is, is Awareness. A judgment happens in Awareness and so we feel we need to forgive or be forgiven. In my experience, the need to forgive or forgiven goes away when judgment goes away.

      Thank you for your words.

      Namaste,
      k

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  6. Dawn

    I tried to explain Acceptance to somone one day in regards to a family member…needless to say, I was battling Resistance.

    I have learned to embrace most of these concepts in my life. Acceptance, Forgiveness were neccessary for my own personal survival…Although, too many people that concider those acts of cowardace. It’s unfortunate.

    thank you for this…it’s nice to be reminded now and again what I’m doing, and why. I’ve shared this with my FB familly as well…maybe I can get a few more people on board.
    .-= Dawn´s last blog ..Reflecting on the last year… =-.

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    1. Kaushik Post author

      Hi Dawn,

      I understand what you mean by other people’s resistance. I usually don’t talk about any of this unless I am directly asked, and that happens more and more. I think as people sense the stillness in you, and they ask about it. Minds will still resist; that’s what egos and minds do. However, you may also find that someone who is resisting may come back sometime later to ask about it again.

      I don’t really talk much about acceptance and forgiveness. I do write about positive thinking, because it seems everyone is telling us we think positively, which does not lead to positivity. What I see is that people re-affirm and try to pretend to be positive and they sooner or later just end up feeling guilty that they can’t even be positive. Even so, it is difficult for people to stop these circles of madness. It is the way the mind works.

      And so I think it’s better that people discover and experience these revelations for themselves, because as concepts, the mind will just come up questions and arguments. But I also felt that this little gem of understanding, that acceptance/forgiveness/positivity/gratitude and so on, are not something we do, but they just happen when we stop doing.

      So these things should make us feel lighter and better. If we’re not feeling lighter, we’re probably practicing these as concepts, rather than actually letting go.

      Thanks for sharing your insight and thank you for sharing with others!

      Peace,
      k

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  7. Megan "JoyGirl!" Bord

    I think this is one of your best written pieces that I’ve read, and I’m honored to have come here today. The things you said made sense in a way that tells me you’re there – you “get it” and are able to share it freely with others. Thank you for sharing it with me.
    I need to give this another read before moving on, but please know that you’ve touched my soul and massaged my mind… And I love the way you pinpointed that life needn’t be serious. More and more I’m letting the idea of “FUN” direct my actions. Life is enjoyable, when we’re wise enough to let go.

    Love & joy to you!
    .-= Megan “JoyGirl!” Bord´s last blog ..7 Steps for Climbing the Staircase to Joy =-.

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    1. Kaushik Post author

      Hi JoyGirl,

      Thank you for the encouraging words! I am honored.

      It is so much easier to live a FUN life simply through being more conscious. It’s much more exhausting to do it the way most of do it, asleep, in autopilot mode, reactive to conditioning. And all it takes Awareness. Letting go helps us see that our fundamental nature is wisdom and intuition, unburdened by concepts. And then all these concepts that are difficult to understand or implement, become easy experience.

      Love and joy to you! (I like that).

      k

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  8. The Emotion Machine

    This is an incredible amount of wisdom crammed into one post. I especially love what you say here:

    “Non-attachment is not the purposeful suppression of compassion or love or sex or music or anything else that makes up living. It is simply a detachment from the drama of the ego. It is the easy knowing that everything is simply a point of view in awareness, and when we are awareness, and not wrapped up in any particular pattern in awareness, we can see that everything is equal.”
    .-= The Emotion Machine´s last blog ..Create A Progressive Timeline To Better Envision Your Goals =-.

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  9. Miche - Serenity Hacker

    Hi Kaushik,

    You’ve really done some great work here demystifying concepts and highlighting action (or inaction) and experience, this post is really rich… I think most importantly you’ve dispelled the common misconceptions around acceptance. Letting go of that inner resistance and not being swept up by it… I also loved what you had to say about gratitude, and the true experience of it: the easy love of life. Beautifully said, I might have to quote you in a future post!

    Cheers,
    Miche
    .-= Miche – Serenity Hacker´s last blog ..Regaining Inner Peace When You’re Busy: Walking Gratitude Meditation =-.

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    1. Kaushik Post author

      Hi Miche,
      Thank you so much for the kind words. Yes, we make a big mystery out of these as concepts, but as awareness abides, we see these as easy experience. Thanks again for your wonderful insight.

      Peace,
      k

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  10. Zeenat{Positive Provocations}

    HI Kaushik,
    I love this post…it just touches so many important aspects of our self. I love how you ended the post with the most important of all aspects…Gentle Honesty. Being aware and honest somehow puts everything else into place automatically. We needn’t try too hard…..wheres the FUN in that :)
    Thank you for writing this wonderful post….I have gotta come to read here more often. Your words always have this superb effect on me!
    .-= Zeenat{Positive Provocations}´s last blog ..The Decision To Be You =-.

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    1. Kaushik Post author

      Hi Zeenat,

      Thanks for encouragement! Yes, you’ve said it exactly right, in the end it is just Awareness, and a gentle honesty with ourselves can help not get trapped in particular beliefs or practices. I’m always happy to have you here!

      Peace,
      k

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  11. Lisa (mommymystic)

    Kaushik, so wonderful, you cut through so many elaborate complications we tend to pile on top of these words. I really loved the part on forgiveness especially, something I’m working on (again) right now “Forgiveness in my experience happens when the need to forgive or be forgiven is let go of. When we realize that everyone—everyone—does the best they possibly can under the circumstances of conditioning, there is no need to forgive or be forgiven. ” I also loved your cutting through of a lot of the ‘gratitude-speak’ we can so easily fall into, and the word ‘spirituality’ sticking in your throat (does in mine too, but I’m stuck with the limits of words, and I’m not poet, unfortunately.) Also, love the phrase ‘gentle honestly’. Will stumble…
    .-= Lisa (mommymystic)´s last blog ..Spiritual Processing,Transits and Empowerments =-.

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    1. Kaushik Post author

      Lisa,

      Thank you for the kind words. I am honored.

      For me, it all gelled very nicely when I realized it is all about letting go.

      Thanks, and nice to see you here again!

      Peace,
      k

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  12. Jodi at Joy Discovered

    Hi Kaushik,
    This article is brilliant, brilliant, brilliant. You have such great descriptions in each section. Your simple exercises at the end are perfect and so helpful.

    Thanks for this, Kaushik. Great timing and really excellent writing.
    Jodi

    P.S. Your comment about the wasted virgins made me laugh out loud. Thanks for that!
    .-= Jodi at Joy Discovered´s last blog ..Planting Seeds for the New Year =-.

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  13. Walter

    Letting go, how can this simple fact be very difficult to achieve in our life. I am impressed by how you expounded this important virtue few understood. I myself am struggling to master this art of letting go and it is very hard. Still, I try my best because I will greatly benefit in the end. :-)

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  14. Jennifer

    Thank you for responding to my other comments. : ) I really love this article. I especially love the definitons you give for acceptance and forgiving. This really resonates with me. I love when you say “Acceptance is not something we do. It is something we stop doing.” My ego loves to be like “Okay Jennifer your life sucks and we need to change it and make it better so let’s learn to accept now.” Lol. It is so silly. I’m realizing that I am terrified of truly letting go and allowing Being to take over and this is natural for the ego. I just need to let go of the resistance of resistance and allow all thoughts, emotions, etc. to flow through. Thank you! I know this is an older post, but it is timeless. I am glad I found your site yesterday. Just at the right time. You are putting the words together from how I feel in my heart. Namaste!

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    1. Kaushik Post author

      You’ve hit it right on the head–there is this fear-angst going on inside us which says I don’t like what’s going on and I am afraid of what’s coming up and I need to take control and do and change and be…

      Yes, we’re terrified of letting go, and it’s good to acknowledge that.

      Thanks for your wonderful insights.

      I think I need to re-organize and trim down the site so people can find relevant articles quickly.

      love and peace,
      k

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  15. Tricia

    Gassho Jennifer,

    O I know that feeling very well. I offer this in love and if you find no use for it simply disregard.

    Learning ‘how’ to let go is the beginning of Knowledge.
    Wisdom is in the “actually act” of letting go.

    In the past, out of fear, need or greed, I usually
    had to be pushed out or have it become so painful
    that I had no other choice ~ then to let go.

    I not only held on to people, places and things.
    I held on to beliefs ~beliefs that worked for years,
    but were no longer useful.

    NOW I re-mind myself of how a Gulf Coast Blue Crab grows.
    When it outgrows its former shell, it has to shed the old shell
    and grow a new one. It has to let go completely,
    hold on to absolutely nothing. I t has to let go of its
    only protection in living ~ but also knowing
    to stay in the old shell would eventually kill it.

    Growth for the crab is difficult.
    It has to risk shedding its old familiar shell ~
    become a soft-shelled crab . . .
    and become vulnerable.

    The crab must have faith that its shell
    WILL become stronger and larger.
    It develops a faith in its pain and learns to believe
    that it is being prepared for what is currently unknown to it.

    The crab story helps me understand
    that for the rest of my life I WILL be growing,
    and like it or not, there will be pain.

    What amazes me NOW is that I am able to
    let go and go with the flow;
    and experience the feelings with gratitude.
    Because I re-mind myself why the pain is necessary.
    I get excited about what’s in the future for me.
    Sometimes I can’t wait to shed the old shell,
    learn what I need to learn
    and get the old shell behind me.

    Letting go is an on-going process.
    I know I will begin growing a new shell
    large enough to grow within ~
    and then one day I will outgrow that beautiful new shell.
    Then I will have to go through the pain again.

    Each time it has been easier and easier though ~
    like letting a satin slip slid off effortlessly to the floor. (~_*)

    IN JOY ALWAYS
    Tricia

    Namaste’

    Footnote:
    There are some people who live 90 years;
    and there are some people who live one year 90 times

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  16. Jennifer

    Wow thank you for the responses. This definitely helped to put things in perspective. Love that footnote by the way.

    I definitely know what you mean about having to have the circumstances so painful that you have to let go since there is nothing left to do. I consciously let the fears I had been avoiding all year in (mostly financial, being true to myself, family issues, and not playing by the “rules” all the time) and now I find myself trying to resist all these fears and make it go away. I realize that most of my suffering comes from the resistance of these experiences. These are merely experiences not bad or good, just is. Everything that happens to us is for our growth since the Universe is always evolving. The ego is just fearful of things that will force me to let go of the ego.

    I definitely feel like the crab letting go of my “protection” and feeling vulnerable. My ego pride’s itself on being strong and not being emotional or vulnerable. With this thinking I have never been truly happy or experienced love. The strength I thought I had and prided myself on earlier in life was really weakness and suffering. If this dark night had not happen last year, I definitely would have killed myself (health deteriorating) through all these repressed negative emotions. I never was truly alive anyways like your footnote. Sometimes when I feel the pain and chaos within me I appreciate it because I know it is finally bubbling up to the surface to be healed and loved. We hold onto a lot of baggage from this life and many others lives. Good thing it is inevitable that the storm will pass and we will let love take over.

    Thank you for sharing your experiences and wise words. It really helped! Love & Light.

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  17. Tricia

    LAUGHING!

    I <3 that footnote re-minder!!!

    For me theee very hardest thing was to do ~ NOTHING!
    Worrying made me 'feel' as if I was taking action. HA!
    Poor ego fighting for his life ~ make that MY life.

    It takes Practice! Practice! Practice! to re-wire your brain,
    to learn to Trust The Process.

    However, It is soooo worth it ~ such a priceless gift!!

    Surrounding you with Loving Healing Light!

    O one more thing ~ your already on the right path for you!
    We are perfect and whole in every moment of our Life..
    It does NOT make it untrue because you don't believe it
    or 'feel' it. (~_*)

    IN JOY ALWAYS!

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  18. Tricia

    Hi Jennifer,

    Did you miss me? laughing.

    Your thoughts of ending your Life was your Sacred Self waking you up! You wanted the Life you were living to die. Very emotionally healthy.

    It’s all in how you look through the Illusion and see the truth.

    NOW continue on growing that big beautiful shell ~ if you look to your right I’m growing a new one myself. You may have trouble finding me because I’m playing Hide ‘n Go Seek with the little minnows. Look for the bubbles ~ it’s the minnows laughing when I jump out and yell BOO!!

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  19. Jennifer

    Haha! Thanks. : ) I definitely know what you mean about not being able to relax and do Nothing. My ego loves to worry and think it can change things. But clearly nothing has changed (only intensified) and it won’t so the most sane thing would be to try something different-nothing, acceptance. I know it is going to take practice. Thanks for your comments. Love to know I’m not alone. I feel like a mad woman sometimes lol! Thanks for reminding me that I’m on the right path. With all the chaos in my life right now I forget that and think I need to change circumstances before I do Nothing. Silly! I know lol. I’m going to try some effortless meditation techniques and some of the release and awarness techniques. Before I used to expect crazy things to happen when I meditate so I would stop when I found nothing and got antsy. Now I know that there is nothing to expect just focusing on that inner silence. I’m getting better. I feel like I’m getting less and less combative now with this “detox”. When I realized that I was going through a dark night of the soul (sometimes felt like a dark millenium), it made it somewhat easier to let the process happen since everything is going according to Divine plan. Thanks again for your wise and loving responses. : )

    Here’s to growing new beautiful shells and doing nothing! Lol. Love & Light!

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  20. Tricia

    Hi siSTAR “Crab,

    First it is important that you know that negativity like all forms of pain, needs more negativity to survive, thrive and thus grow more powerful. So when negative thoughts enter the mind (be mindful here siSTAR Crab that YOU ALONE CALL THEM IN as you are the thinker of your thoughts) they cannot remain unless you give them your attention. This is what gives them their energy.

    Therefore the MOST important step in with dealing with them is: DO NOT RESIST THEM…in any way as acceptance of what is, is key to regaining control and finding your way out from “under”! So don’t try to “force” yourself to think happy ones in opposition to them or to judge them….for example pass on finding them unwanted, terrible, hard etc…Know that ALL THOUGHTS ARE 100% neutral only you decide that they are negative or positive good or bad etc…these judgments are what make them real to you and this is what makes it “very difficult” to release them. DO NOT FEED EGO! >_< grrrrrrrr

    The next step is to simply slip into 'watching' them instead of thinking them…to do this I invite you to just look at them without grabbing on to them…as if you were watching a train roll by…make no comments as these are all judgments…so just content yourself to observe them.

    They will rise and fall then they will fade away…without your resistance or attention they will lose momentum and they will disappear. Once your mind is clearer you can then go about your day …just remember to "watch" your thoughts as you go…when you feel they are affecting you negatively, STOP and BECOME AWARE OF THEM then release them without resistance or judgment. Catching them early and diffusing them BEFORE they gain energy is the ultimate goal! And with practice you will master this lesson and thereby invite more and more peace into your mind.

    There is also one more thing you need to keep in mind…as I said above you are the thinker of your thoughts so if they arise it is because you are thinking them…it is important to take responsibility for them as this alone will give you the power to change them…BUT…beware of blaming yourself or judging yourself harshly for thinking them as this just adds guilt to the fire ablaze with negativity! When we know better ~ we do better. Yes? So, gently take control of your "dark clouds," watch them float away to make "space" for higher happier big fat fluffy white ones to come in their place!

    The technique that works for me is I view my life the same way I view a movie. I am the audience. This is what is referred to as non-attachment ~ but that's a story for another day. laughing

    Wishing you infinite blessings on your path.

    Love and light

    PS:
    Come on over and play with the minnows and me. Tonight we're playing Tag, (whispers "we always win because they swim in schools . . . so when one of them tags you; just turn around and tag the last one swimming away . . shhhh) (~_* ) laughing

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  21. Jennifer

    Hehe. Tag tonight…fun! Thank you for the tips. Great points! I just need to practice. I get lost in the negative thoughts and I am afraid to just allow everything to be as it is. Then I get frustrated and resist the frustration. I’m going to just watch the frustration. I will use the negative feeling I feel when I attach to a negative thought as my indicator to just watch the thought and let it flow. I definitely will be putting this techniques to use tonight after tag lol. Please tell the story of non-attachment! I love that technique of looking at your life as a movie!! Thanks again!! Love & Light!

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  22. Tricia

    All set siSTAR Crab,

    I saved you a seat right next to me in the movie theatre ~ and we can share the ‘silo’ of popcorn they serve.

    But NOW ~ Tag ~ You’re IT!!!!
    (and as she runs away she looks back at Jennifer and says:
    ” Your shell looks bigger today!” and they both run towards the minnows belly laughing) . . . (~_*)

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